Post # 1
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Worker bee
Only lately he is all I thought about, I think what if i see him passing, I want to go to a fire work display and party but don’t want to run into him so I’m missing out on it. Every song i listen to reminds me of him even if it didn’t mean anything while we were together, I wonder if hes met someone is he giving them what he could never give me and why? My wedding was meant to be next year will he reach out to me by then? What do I do if he does? I’m just constantly asking these questions to myself and don’t know what’s wrong with me.
Anyone else feel like this after this amount of time and being in a new relationship? I feel bad on my bf for thinking these things when I’m with him.
Post # 2
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1260 posts
Bumble bee
Did you give yourself time between relationships? If your thoughts are becoming obsessive, as you write, it would be smart to schedule a session or two with a therapist to talk about some ways to unclench and let go of these negative thoughts.
It also sounds like you need a break. Take a trip, sign up for a new club, or do something out of the ordinary. Start making new memories and it will be easier to leave the old ones alone.
Post # 3
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8751 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
Anonymous16: It sounds like if you are so hung up on your ex then you probably could do with being single for a while. I expect your BF would be very upset to hear you are still having thoughts like this about your ex. Did you give youself much time to grieve for your last relationship before starting a new one?
Post # 4
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2729 posts
Sugar bee
Break up with your boyfriend. You haven’t gotten over your ex, you shouldn’t be in a new relationship.
Post # 5
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2370 posts
Buzzing bee
Close the book on an ex-boyfriend. When you find yourself getting misty just tell yourself to cut it the hell out.
Time can’t heal the wound if you keep picking at the scab.
Post # 6
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1978 posts
Buzzing bee
Break up with your boyfriend; he deserves someone who can give him all their attention.
Deal with your emotions regarding your ex. Process it, and move on. Distract yourself – soon enough it won’t be a distraction. It will be you living you life, doing things you enjoy.
on’t seek him out, don’t respond to him if he reaches out, don’t look him up on social media. Block him out of your life as much as possible. That is the best way to heal and clear your mind.
It takes time. There is no perfect recipe for healing, it can take a long time or not long at all. Take all the time you need.
Post # 7
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558 posts
Busy bee
Ew, stop! What if your boyfriend said the same shit about his ex? You should probs dump him like…yesterday. You need time to get over your previous relationships before suckering in a new one. That’s just mean.