(Closed) everything is wrong and nobody cares!! (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

After reading this post and the last one about the rings, I am starting to think that perhaps you should be more direct with people.  It seems like you are unhappy about things but unwilling to ask for what you want.  If my maid of honor wanted to go on vacation the same week we I wanted to have my wedding I would so fine, and find someone who does care enough to be there.  Tell your Future Mother-In-Law that she needs to grow up and stop asking you to coddle her.  It is time to focus on yourself and your upcoming wedding.  Problem fixed, now everyone is dealing with their own issues instead of trying to make their problem your issue.

Post # 7
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3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Miss JoelsBee:  You are so welcome.  I am glad that you appreciated my advice because sometimes people don’t.  For some reason a lot of people tend to see my as cold or mean.  I don’t think I am, but I am honest and people can’t seem to tell the difference.  Thank you for the compliment. (hug)

Post # 8
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace: <– I agree 100%. Take control of it now before it escalates even further. It’s your wedding and if people have issues being there on the day YOU AND YOUR Fiance CHOSE, then that’s their issue, not yours. 🙂 I learned this the hard way (kept feeling like I had to move my date to choose my date around others) and ended up picking an amazing one that I will NOT be moving).

Your Maid/Matron of Honor sounds annoying. Tell her to go on her trip if it’s more important than your wedding. And you were NOT attacking her, she was being stupid and inconsiderate. Just because she’s in a crappy relationship does not mean that your wedding has less meaning. How stupid.

Post # 9
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303 posts
Helper bee

“Dropping a calf” hahahah, sorry to laugh, it sounds like you’re having a rough time, but I’ve not heard that expression before and it’s awesome!

On a serious note, I know she’s your long-time friend, but I think it’s better for you to do without your Maid/Matron of Honor and find someone who can be there for you (emotionally, and without the drama queen antics). It sounds like your other bridesmaid/MOH is more supportive, in spite of her not being close by.

Stay positive 🙂 “You are right though! From now on I am going to think of Joel and myself and what we want and try to have fun planning our wedding despite the lack of love/support from anyone around us. He’s wonderful and he’s my new (improved) family! (:” I think you are approaching this in the best possible way!

Post # 11
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

yikes! No matter what happens, this is going to be one of the greatest days of your life! One of my friends had horrible weather on her wedding day and almost no one in her husband’s family could make it (at the last minute!), BUT she still had an amazing time, and just had more occasion to celebrate later.

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