(Closed) Everything little thing he does is(n't) magic…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
181 posts
Blushing bee

It’s reasonable to not feel head over heels for your SO at absolutely all times. However there’s ‘little things,’ habits you’ll probably just have to learn to live with because they make him who he is and we all know you can’t change other people (only yourself) and then there’s ‘little things,’ obvious misconceptions about what it means to be a couple or married, or living with each other (doing the dishes, shopping for the household, doing the cooking).

When you come across ‘little things’ it’s best to find a way to not be annoyed by them, remember that over all you love your SO and these tiny habits aren’t going to ruin that. However when you come across ‘little things,‘ it’s best that you sit your SO down and have a long talk about it, until you’ve hashed out a division of labor that works for both of you – because if you don’t address them straight on, the discontent tends to fester and grow.

And the person who uses the last bit of toilet paper, puts on the new roll. That’s just, gah!

Post # 4
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

@littleacorn:  I always think a good portion of the problems on the Bee can be solved with proper communication between SOs. It’s advice I need to take regularly myself. Have a sit down with Fiance, and communicate your issues to him and let him air his own as well. Then find a way to compromise. Maybe he can pick up the pace some, and you can cut him a break a bit more. That way maybe neither party is completely happy, but you end up with a situation you can both live with. Good luck!

Post # 5
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Bahahahahah, great title. I feel like my Fiance would write the same post about me. 

As far as advice @RipleyC:  seems on point.

Post # 6
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Haha you sound like me. Just remember we love them for who they are and not for who we want them to be.


My hubby is lazy and has only cook roughly 3 times in our 5 years of dating but this is him he has never pretended to be anything else. As you would already know nagging and whinge doesn’t really work and I don’t think they ever grow up.  Me and hubby now have a deal that he has to sit and talk to me why I cook and at least clean the kitchen a few times a week it works and some how this was us meeting in the middle haha.

Nearly all couples have ups and downs especially one their is stress involved.

Post # 7
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@RipleyC:  +1.

I got Fiance to put his clothes on a chair instead of the floor. He eventually got all the way to putting it in the laundry basket. Baby steps… 😉

Post # 9
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

It’s definitely normal to feel like that once in a while.

Some days I don’t care that my guy watches TSN all the time, and other days I want to throw the TV out the window. I too do all of the cleaning and grocery shopping and for the most part it doesn’t bother me but some days when I’m in the right mood, I will be super pissed about it.

I agree with the other bees who said communication is key. Ask him to take care of something small just to relieve some pressure from you.

Post # 12
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve been going through something similar with Fiance – he works almost 60 hours a week and when he’s home he wants his much deserved chil time.  He does make dinner a few times a week and will do chores, but sometimes when he’s sitting on the computer and I’m picking up I get a bit resentful even though things have improved greatly from when he first started working!  We have discussed this and I need to scale back and chill.  I get at least 4 extra hours per day more than him that I use to relax, go to the gym, etc. so the least he deserves is 45 min or an hour each day to do the same.


Post # 13
5191 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@littleacorn:  that’s men lol! Relax and remember things could be worse. Does he treat you with respect? Is he faithful? Can you rely on him when it comes to important things? Those are the qualities that hold relationships together. I’m sure you have own your little quirks that annoy him too. We all do. I get a little miffed when my guy curses all the time. He likes to replace words like “um” with “f-ing”. Imagine having a conversation with someone that goes as such: “f-ing, something funny happened at work today…” 

He uses that word for no reason. So I started doing it too, mockingly, and it ticked him off so much that he doesn’t do it as much anymore. 

Post # 16
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@littleacorn:  Yeah mine will do the cat boxes dishes and laundry, and the cooking on top of it helps as well.  We trade off on stuff like that usually and I usually am more of the duster/sweeper (since I am OCD about every.little.thing. lol)

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