(Closed) Ex being a nightmare

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It’s too bad that you work together. Usually, after I’m in a relationship that has ended there is no contact after that. I don’t see any point. What’s in the past is in the past. So personally, I don’t really understand your feelings for wanting to small talk or to say hi to someone who doesn’t want to say hi back. It would be so much easier if you didn’t have to work together every now and then but even still, my advice would just be to leave it in the past. In my opinion, sometimes being civil just means not to start any drama- it doesn’t mean you have to act like you’re friends.

Post # 4
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I feel you, friend.  I work with my ex and it is awkward as all hell, especially considering only a few people in the office even knew about our relationship. As far as a lot of people know, we used to be close friends, now we don’t speak. To make matters worse, the ex got together with another co-worker (who I’ve never been able to stand) and I get to watch them flaunt their relationship all over the place, not to mention the fact that all of my old work “friends” now act as if I never existed.  It’s like high school all over again!   I don’t want my ex back or anything, but it still hurts a little to be constantly reminded how I was cast aside like a piece of garbage for the new chick.

I understand wanting to have some small talk or something.  If anything, it’s to regain some sense of normalcy in the workplace.  We have to spend 40 hours a week here, having it be awkward and uncomfortable makes it almost too tough to bear.  Even though I’m still pissed at how everything went down, I make an effort to be professional and cordial to both the ex and the new chick.  Not for their comfort, but for my own.  That’s really all you can do.

There’s a reason they say to never dip your pen in the company ink.  Ugh.

Post # 5
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Oy, it’s so hard to work with exes because you just keep having to interact with them whether you like it or not. I would say, behave toward him they way you want to behave, not as a reaction to his behavior.

The only person who you can control is yourself. If he wants to play petty games, that’s his problem—you will be the professional one, and anyone with two eyes in their head will be able to tell the difference. Good luck and I hope it gets better.

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