- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2018
I mostly just need to vent, but if you have advice, I’ll gladly hear it!
A while ago, I had this friend. We bonded when we were both in high school and we ended up starring in the school musical together.
We were really close for a while. FH (then just BF) and I would stay at her house almost every weekend, and the 3 of us got along really well.
After a while, she got to be very manipulative and controlling. She wanted me to be at her side at the drop of a hat (for nothing important), made horrible public posts on Tumblr and Facebook about how terrible a friend I was whenever I didn’t want to hang out or already had plans, as well as sending me nasty private messages… It just got to be too much after about a year.
FH and I had decided that we would try to slowly pull away from her to make the ending of the friendship go smoother. She was the kind who would start drama, and we wanted to avoid that. So we slowly stopped inviting her places, I stopped texting her first, etc. She didn’t seem to notice.
She got engaged in December of last year. For various reasons, I didn’t support the wedding, but I figured they’d never make it down the aisle (they didn’t), and I smiled and told her I was happy for her. I went dress shopping with her and her mom, where she asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor. Looking back, I probably shouldn’t have said yes, but she put me on the spot in the middle of David’s Bridal. Everything was fine.
Christmas Day, she absolutely lost it. She sent me horrible text messages, complaining that I put my relationship before her wedding (umm… why is that a bad thing?) I told her that I didn’t want to be friends with her anymore, and I thought it was over and done with.
Well, periodically since then, she’s contacted me through various social media sites, begging for my forgiveness and asking me to be friends with her again. She’s gotten other people (mutual acquaintances) involved, and she has them convinced that I’m such a bad person for not taking her back – but she’s the one desperately begging for my forgiveness. I forgave her a long time ago, but I still have no desire to be friends again.
She texted me again today and I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried ignoring her. I’ve tried telling her nicely and meanly and every way in between to leave me alone… I can’t think of anything else. I thought about blocking her phone number, but there’s other ways she could still contact me… and she will find them. I wouldn’t put it past her to show up at my house. At least text messages are easy to save for proof, in case I ever need them.