(Closed) Ex-BM is in love with my fiance!!

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
1454 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If I were you I’d have my Fiance tell her it wasn’t going to happen- just a  “look, we know, and we value your friendship but I DONT WANT TO DATE YOU OR BE WITH YOU.” See how she reacts. It could be a slap of reality or she could try to jump him and you have to cut it off forever! I think you need to put it out there for her though… no false hope for her!

Post # 17
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t really have great advice for you, but this situation reminded me of “My Best Friend’s Wedding” – You’d be Cameron Diaz, so Go Cameron!

Post # 18
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I was just checking the original post to find and update and here it is!

WOW to say the least! A lot of us called it right on. What a horrible situation to be in. I agree with most of the PP’s. Fiance really should handle it, for me it would be really hard to let my FH handle it on his own (im very vocal and he lets everything slide) But i think it will be better for everyone involved.

GOOD LUCK! I hope this works out for everyone.

Post # 19
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

WOW – I have to say i was in a similiar situation.  A couple month’s before my wedding my husband’s BEST FRIEND.. who was a groomsman decided he would start texting me inappropriate messages and send me dirty pictures completely random.

I was horrified because he was at my house almost every day!  I responded with a simple “umm.. you do KNOW i am marrying cisco”.

Needless to say he confessed to being in love with me and i was beyond weirded out (especially since he has a girlfriend).  i didn’t plan on telling my Fiance at the time because i was soo nervous that fists would fly.  I ended up blurting it out a week before the wedding because i felt a weight on my shoulders.. Fiance FREAKED out but in the end they are still friends and he was still on my wedding.  Now that was 8 months ago and i can say that after the wedding.. i think i’ve seen him a hand full of times.

good luck !

Post # 20
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Omg, that’s a shocker for sure. In my opinion, it’s not appropriate for them to be friends until she can get over him. You don’t need her meddling around with him before your wedding!!

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