(Closed) Ex box?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you keep an "ex box" with pictures and things from past relationships?
    Yes, as long as there's no feelings with it : (27 votes)
    27 %
    No- throw that out immediately : (51 votes)
    50 %
    Depends.. : (23 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
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    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Pupperoni: I have gotten rid of everything but my high school prom picture and college pictures.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I say throw it out.  I threw mine out.  And I wouldn’t like it if Darling Husband had an “ex box”

    Post # 6
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    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t throw it out.  Those are memories, good and bad, but they are still part of what made you what you are.  I have no issues with keeping memories.  My dad had a box of things from his first wife that past away, we have pictures of DHs ex in our photo albums and mine also. 

    Post # 7
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    7416 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @tksjewelry: This. I don’t see the big deal. Its the past but its still part of you. Do people throw away pictures of old friends or family they don’t speak to. Of course not. As long as your FH doesn’t care, keep it. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have old pictures and mementos from exes floating around.  Mostly prom pics and that sort of thing.  I won’t get rid of it- it’s my past, it comes with me, and it’s not like I’m still holding a flame for these dudes.  But Fiance still has pics of his ex floating around too, so he doesn’t much care.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    hmmm… i just remembered my ex box is living under my bed. I had thought of mailing it to him but then i am gonna think that i am gonna save the stuffed animals and stuff and donate them to the toy drive next chritmas, everything elce i am going to burn. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I kept mine until I moved in with my husband. For a while I thought maybe I wanted to keep it because it was a big part of my history (5 years) and I thought it was harmless, but once we decided to move in together it just seemed disrespectful to bring that into our home. 

    Post # 11
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    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I threw away everything except a promise ring that is at my parents. I keep meaning to sell it, but always forget when I am at my parents to pick it up! In the end, I know some people keep their “ex boxes”, but personally I wouldn’t my Fiance to have one and I don’t have one either.

    Post # 12
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I threw out most pictures that I had printed if I had digital copies.  I will not delete them though, as they take up zero physical space and are just on a drive with all my other pictures.  For older pictures from film, those are in yearly albums so they are just ex albums/pics so I see no point in pulling out those pics.  And I dont have many tokens and momentos otherwise, but I did toss random little things.  I kept jewlery though, as they werent promise rings or anything like that, just nice pieces.

    Post # 13
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    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Those are memories from your past.  I wouldn’t keep the box in a place of honor but going through an attic or storage closet and coming across the pics as you would come across an old outfit or something wouldn’t be bad.  We all have history.  I’m not sure I’d make an “ex box” though.  That seems to make the pics more meaningful than they should be.  I’d just throw the old pics in with old pics of friends and family.  

    I have pics of old flames in boxes and baskets etc. that I’ve never moved since Darling Husband moved in with me.  I suppose Darling Husband could run across them sooner or later.  I’ve thought about gathering them and putting them somewhere but they are so unimportant I haven’t even bothered to do it.  

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m with @CorgiTales, I thought for the longest time I would want to keep that stuff but before I moved in with Fiance I looked at all that stuff and thought, why am I keeping this stuff?!?! So into the garbage it went. And not once have I ever regretted that decision. Why keep it if you’re not using it, it’s not adding any value to your life, and you have no feelings tied to it?

    Post # 15
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Just to clarify, I didn’t like… go through every box of pics I have to cut my ex’s head out of them or anything lol. I just had a shoebox with love letters, jewelry, and general mementos and whatnot in it and that is what i trashed. 

    Post # 16
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    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    This post has just reminded me I have one of my own sitting in a box within a box in our junk room!! I really need to throw all the mementos out!

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