- 5 years ago
Mean mean mean is this post, but boy does it feel brilliant!
Years ago, an ex of 12 months privately proposed (drunk and no ring), I said yes at the time then sat him down and told him Id need time to live together first so Id rather not give him a yes or a no right away until we’d both had serious sober thought about it (also I doubted he’d really meant it).
He was releived and we started talking about moving in together (we lived an hour apart). fast forward 3 months and I was then spectactularly dumped by him pulling a complete and utter David Copperfield. I mean a total vanish job.
No calls no texts, no letter, no email, blocked from facey, you name it, he was gone.
The stress and hurt was unbelievable. I called 4 times tops and sent under 10 messages via email, text and facey (nothing nasty, just asking him to please have the decency to at least tell me what was going on).
I even checked the news for accidents and called his brother after 3 days as I was worried something had hapenned (humiliating in the extreme).
I lost 14 kgs in 6 weeks and was a total airhead trying to move on. absolutley NO closure nor explanation.
Zoom forward a couple years and I meet my SO and Ive moved on. I made him promise me that if he wanted out he was to tell me and never behave that way (so cowardly).
I missed a call on my mobile a year down the track and the message on my phone was long and rambly from my ex saying he loves me, wants me back and his life has turned to sh1t.
I changed my number and have been totally happy ever since. I hadnt realised how much Id needed closure until that message. It didnt explain anything, but a big silent FU to him gave me back some of my pride.
Also, Ive got the best ever SO in the world so that helps
Anyone else have a good ex story?