Post # 1
Ok, So…Ive been with my fiance for five years and engaged for two. But within the last six months I have Ex boyfriends from way back coming out of the wood work telling me they still are attracted to me or they think about me all the time…blah blah blah. All kinds of statements that shouldve happened when we were together! Why is it now they want to confess their feelings. I know guys want what they cant have but its been forever since ive been taken and its all happening now!?? what gives?
Post # 3
Exactly what you said. They want what they can’t have. Are you encouraging them? Just make sure they can’t contact you. If they try through facebook, block them, if they try by phone, ignore it.
Post # 4
Haha this is funny in an ironic way. It’s not all that humorous, but most of us would get at least a little bit of satisfaction out of it. Problem is that many guys don’t know what they have until they don’t have it any more. Or they move on and then that new girl doesn’t work out, which in turn makes them realize that they had it pretty good with you. I’m sure some of it too is wanting attention and they’d love to be the one that was so perfect you’d leave your fiancee to go back and be with them.
Post # 5
No, i do my best to ignore them or chage the subject. I dont flirt or give hints of anything. Im totally in love with my fiance the thought of being with these guys makes me laugh because it was so long ago. I find it funny that theyre all doing it at the same time and dont realise how stupid the idea of it is!
Post # 6
My first serious ex wrote, “I thought we could work things out but you’re in a new relationship…” He abandoned and left me.
And then my last ex heard wind of my engagement, so his response was, “I was supposed to be the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with” Uhm…no. Obviously not.
They both confessed this while they were in another relationship. Poor girls.
And I agree with PP…they want to elicit an emotional response from these words. In both cases I used the energy I would’ve used crying and feeling sorry for myself to make myself better. They both made me seek out my real self, find confidence, and I got @#it done. When they saw this it made them feel pretty poopy I’m sure. They started to doubt their own part in my life…and then tried to talk to me wondering if I remember them at all.
Their efforts are laughable. And ignoring them is the best way for sure, would’ve saved me lot of grief for the brief moment of vanity I had.
Post # 7
My Fiance and I are very open. He knows I am still friends with two of my exs, and one still had feeling for me up until Fiance and I got engaged. Fiance asked me what thought about it back then, and I told him I was honestly disapointed it took Ex so long to realize I was so wonderful, and that it took us breaking up to clean his life up (and he is now an amazing cook, fantastic job, learned how to be a gentleman!!) But that with out the break up I never would have found my Fiance, it just would have made my time with Ex a little more enjoyable. Its okay to be a little peeved that your exs couldnt figure it out sooner, but try to realize it just proves your Fiance was obviously ment for you, and they did you a favor.
Post # 8
“That happened to me with a guy I was “seeing”, he was like… “we had a really good thing going didnt we?”
Like…emm…no. Thats why I am marrying the love of my life! He didnt even come close.
Post # 9
@shannon marie: It happens. I had two ex’s come back and confess feelings. Take my advice: LEAVE YOUR EX ALONE. Do not talk to them or communicate. Do not give them any room in your life to try to start trouble. I’ve had to stop communicating with both because “being friends” could not happen because of their trying to be flirty.
Post # 10
This happened to me for about a month after getting engaged. I had two of my good friends make things VERY awkward when they were trying to lure me away from my Fiance by saying that they always loved me and that they made the mistake in letting me go. I was just like “oh well you’ll find someone perfect for you” and change the subject. The worst thing for me is the fact that my ex RUINED “you mean everything/the world to me”. I can’t stand it when my fiance says it because that is the line that my ex left me with when we broke up and I was crushed. But, the best part is getting the satisfaction of knowing what I knew deep down all along: I’m a catch! And if they hadn’t thrown me back I wouldn’t have found my FI!
Post # 12
From what guys tell me (and what i’ve observed) 9 times outta 10 the whole “you were the best thing that ever happened to me” is a crock of shit. Its simply about ego. Men think once they have had you, they can have you again. Its all part of the game.