Ex broke up and remarried 8 weeks later

posted 4 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The success rate doesn’t matter. Maybe she really is the one. But why are you worried about whether it will last? Surely you wouldn’t take him back.

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper

If he was with her exclusively for just eight weeks, then probably slim to none. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Stop worrying about whether or not he’ll be happy in his new relationship and focus on making a happy life for yourself. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Why does it matter?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

I can completely understand why you’re hurting. It’s awful to end a long-term relationship like that, let alone wonder why he was “over it” so quickly. So people are just like that! (And/or he started seeing the new partner before you were actually broken up …) 

Don’t worry about the success rate of their relationship, worry about getting back on your feet. Give yourself permission to be mad, sad, frustrated, scared, whatever! But don’t wallow and keep following up with him, focus on becoming the person you need to be for yourself.

It’s still early. Be kind to yourself. But part of being kind to yourself involves not checking up on his relationship. Think of him like an addiction: if you’re trying to kick an alcohol habit, you shouldn’t be spending time checking up on wineries and beer manufacturers on social media or wondering if the new brewery down the street will fail or succeed.

Hugs to you. You’ll get through this.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Who cares? Stop wasting your energy wondering about him.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

OH man… I get it, that sucks. It is AWFUL. While people posting on here are technically right in the fact that it doesn’t matter anymore as he has moved on, I don’t really think its necessary for them to state that obvious fact. 

Id say you should just feel sorry for whoever that other girl is. She just got rebound married. Know that they are both idiots, and try to move on. You dodged a bullet here bee. Keep that in mind. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

cmitchell1 :  geez people can be harsh. I swear some bees have no human feelings. I also can see why this would feel hurtful. No one wants to be forgotten so easily. I’d be dwelling on it too, even if I was grateful for the relationship to end. Odds are he was either with her before you split up as well, or rushed things. Either way it’s not likely to be a success. Even if it’s the perfect lucky relationship, there’s no harm in kidding yourself to feel better anyway. 

Just remind yourself of the bad things. Personality issues, why the relationship failed. Take some tome for yourself, feel spiteful, then haul yourself back up, wish him the best (in your head) and move on with someone better. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

To the people saying why does OP care…are you serious? She was with the man for over half a decade and they broke up and he’s already married to someone else. Anyone would hurt and wonder in that situation. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

That happens more than you think.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Oh Bee I am sorry. Just know that your heart is going to at least heal and his can’t because he doesn’t have one.  Your going to go through the why’s and the how come’s but try not to blame yourself. It doesn’t matter what the success rate is. He isn’t your problem anymore. Try to be happy and move on.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

Oh wow I’m sorry. That had to hurt.

The best thing for you to do now is to cut all contact, so that you don’t know what he’s doing. Looking for updates will just delay your healing.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’m so sorry, i know that had to really hurt. 

Just focus on making a happy life for yourself & cut off contact, all of it so you don’t have to know what he’s doing bc looking for updates will just end up delaying your healing & trust me when i say, you don’t need that – your happiness is the ONLY thing that matters now remember that…

Hugs bee! 

My ex broke up w/ me to go back to his ex gf/kids mom excatly a year ago in january & i cut off complete contact w/ him and i honestly don’t give a rats ass about what he’s doing or is up to anymore. I am very happy now so that’s probably why i don’t care to know. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Seem like he knew about said person while you guys were still together, and after finally deciding your relationship was him was not going to work, he then turned to what he elieves at this time is great for him. Which it may be, or it may not be. 
Either way, if he ‘got over’ you so quickly, I would use that hurt as a good reason to completely ignore what he does in life. 

Cut contact, all of it, and just work on your happiness, because you should matter the most to yourself, not him. 🙂

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