Ex broke up and remarried 8 weeks later

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

He must have been dating her prior to your breakup. In which case, he sucks.

Post # 17
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Helper bee

As a few others said – he was already seeing this new chick on the side. Focus that into anger that he would lie and cheat and cut all contact. Remove all pictures and mementos and block all numbers and social media.

Post # 18
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Busy bee

slomotion :  Same thing that came to my mind. Who marries someone they’ve only been with for 8 weeks?! If that’s the case then they are more than likely doomed; and because OP needs to hear it and it’s probably true anyway, they aren’t going to last and he sucks so consider that bullet dodged. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

Pretty likely to crash and burn I’d say. I like to think karma takes care of people that do crap like this.  My ex left me 9 months pregnant with baby #3 heartbroken and devastated for a 19 year old waitress he worked with. 

She left him within a year and today he’s living in a 3 BR townhouse with a gf of 8 years with no ambition and SEVEN kids.  And She only cares about hers.  

Focus on your healing and next steps.  You have good things to look forward to!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

I can totally understand why you are feeling the way you are. Something similar happened to me. My ex of 5 years left and I found out 4 weeks later he was in a full blown relationship with another woman. I’m almost 100% sure he’d been talking (at the very least) to her while we were together. They then got pregnant after just 4 months together. It sucks. I get it. I know it’s cliche but time really does heal. It takes a while and I echo what others have said about not checking up on him on social media. It can be very tempting but it’s not helpful. Hugs girl! 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

oh hunny she has been around for a while.

heʻs a fuckwad. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

8 weeks is way too short of a time period to meet and marry… they must have been seeing each other before that. Oh god bee that stings. I’m so sorry 🙁 You have every right to be upset. I’d be livid. Try to focus on yourself- shitty things like this always come back to the person who transgressed (I believe in karma), you’ll be fine. I feel bad for the person he’s with now, what a piece of work she married. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m not trying to be harsh. Sure it hurts, and she can dwell on the lost relationship and the fuckery of him moving on so soon. But it’s completely unhealthy for her to be fixating on how long or if that relationship will last. That will only make this sting more, and giving her some kind of hope that it won’t last could give her false hope. Besides, if it did fail and he came back, I’m not going to encourage her to settle for second place.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

cmitchell1 :  Agree with previous posters – it’s irrelevant.

As to your question: according to the below article the success of a subsequent relationship is not dependent on it being a rebound.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201405/can-rebound-relationship-be-the-real-deal%3famp

Finally, he could be making a big mistake or he could be certain he found the right person. I’ve known several couples who married after 2-3 months and have been together for 20+ years. Either way, it doesn’t matter to you.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

sharkey38 :  I don’t where your ex lives, but 9 people in a 3 bedroom house is illegal here unless that’s a big ass townhouse.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

I’m sure it’s illegal.  Pretty sure they’re fraudulently getting state aid too.  I try to stay out of it.  downonmulberry :  

Post # 27
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Busy bee

downonmulberry :  I don’t know your area but it might also depend on size and be more complicated if some are related minors.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

I think I heard 2 per bedroom plus 1.  They also have 2 dogs.  Many days I thank my lucky stars I’m not her. anonymousbee001 :  

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

anonymousbee001 :  So related adults have no limits in my county, unrelated  adults are up to 5 per household, children depend on home and room size. Basically, you need a window and door for every bedroom, access to a bathroom without going through another bedroom, and at least 50 sq ft per person, with no more than 4 people per bedroom. So the county would literally arrest him for that, it’s considered child neglect here.

But I agree with PP, you are lucky you’re not in that situation.

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