Ex-Coworker got fired for blackmailing girls, now works with me.

posted 2 weeks ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Keep it yourself but keep your eyes and ears open. You acknowledge that you only have hearsay at best. That’s not enough to warrant marching into HR to basically try to get the guy fired. The company probably knew he got fired. The risk and responsibility then is on them to have figured out why. You have good intentions but not the whole story, so stay in your lane.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’d anonymously send a letter to HR that said it would be in the company’s best interest to call his last place of business (list the company’s name) and speak directly to the hr manager there about why he was fired. 

If they call the previous company hopefully they will back up your letter by saying why he was fired. If I were you I wouldn’t feel comfortable unless I tried. I might even ask my friends if they knew the girls he blackmailed and let them know they should call the company he works at now if they feel they should be aware. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

No, do not keep this to yourself. If anyone finds out you knew about this YOUR job would be in jeopardy, ESPECIALLY if he uses this as an opportunity to do it again. I am all for people being able to recover from mistakes, but this isn’t just a mistake, it’s gross and criminal. You have a responsibility to your company to provide this information. 

Go to HR TODAY. Tell them some version of this: “I feel really awkward about this, but I feel it’s important for you to know. The other day, I recognized an old colleague, who is now the new Security Architect on my team. After I left, he was fired from his job and I wasn’t aware of why until recently. It has come to my attention that he may have, in the course of his job, hacked into the accounts of some women and attempted to use the information as a way to pressure them into a more intimate relationship with him. I want to stress that this is second-hand information, but knowing our company culture I felt it was important that I pass this along just in case there is something to it.”

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

mrsssb :  I have to disagree about sending an anonymous letter. Usually such things are completely dismissed. 

I really think that people need to get away from trying to do things ‘anonymously’. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - City, State

I would explain it as you have here.

Tell HR at your current place of your knowledge of the situation, explain that you wouldn’t feel right if you didn’t say something, and that while it’s possible it’s not quite true, you think they should know and check with his/your last place of business’ HR to see why he was fired.  Perhaps it’s lies and he was fired for another reason, but if security gave him 10 minutes to be out or they’d call the police, it definitely was NOT good.

Tell.  Definitely tell. Up front & with all honesty.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

The thing is I do think you should tell but also, he might have got a reference. I do the recruitment for my workplace and some references only supply the employment dates and nothing else, so it wouldn’t tell you if someone fired or quit 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You don’t even have to go into specific details over why he was fired but just give them a heads up that he left in a hurry and under dubious circumstances. And just explain that you mentioned to ex coworkers that he was a new hire at your current job which is how the fired conversation came up.

Also ask HR to keep your name out of it given his past behaviour.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Have you thought about writing to Ask a Manager? She has great advice. I’m guessing after reading her for so long she’d advise you the same as above to speak with HR about what you know, ensure you say it’s second hand and leave it in their hands. I’d make sure to be very level and not accusatory and just present it as matter of fact as you can. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

FutureMrsGrabs :  I feel like that is what Alison would say. But also the open thread on weekends on the site has really good advice. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

mrsssb :  Assuming OP is in the U.S., basically no decent HR department will give a reason why someone was fired (for legal reasons).

Post # 13
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Newbee

This is difficult most hr depts (uk and USA) will not reveal why he was fired as they fear him suing them. If there was no police investigation this makes this even the more likely. Most will only say he worked there between x and y date and left voluntarily. Which seems to be the case as you say as they told him to resign or they’d call the police. Your previous employer has been highly remiss. You can tell your current hr but it’s unlikely your previous place of employment will confirm the story. However the hope will be your new employer trusts your word sufficiently to monitor him closely to ensure this doesn’t happen again. I’m so sorry you are in this position.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

You heard it from someone who was told.  You don’t have first or even second hand knowledge.  And, you weren’t actually employeed there when it happened.  Remember that if you go to HR and prepare for a possible backlash.

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