Post # 1
My ex, who By The Way, is a super great man, just proposed to his girlfriend last week. I really am truly happy for them, but I couldn’t help but throw out all the details to my SO. My SO and I have been dating longer than my ex and his new girl. So ugg. And my ex and his Fiance already have a wedding date, venue, colors, etc. (things they planned even before getting engaged).
Now I wanted to keep my mouth shut, but dang it I just couldn’t help but mention all this to my SO. How hard it is to find a venue in the spring (he once mentioned he wants to get married next spring), how great it is that they have all this planned already, how wonderful that my ex was able to secure a ring depsite being in a tough spot financially. My SO’s response: nothing. He did not even say a word, just changed the subject.
I guess I should just drop the entire subject matter, but goodness, my SO can be so frustrating!
Post # 3
@BearryL: Um. I think this course of action is unwise on your part if you want to get engaged any time soon. I doubt your SO really cares how great a guy your ex is and how he proposed so soon to his girlfriend. The comparison may make your SO run for the hills.
Try putting yourself in his place. What if he bragged on how great his ex was, in some form or fashion?
Post # 4
@BearryL: yea drop it, it can sound like you wished you were still with the other guy so you can be looking for venues and such.
Post # 6
Tread verrrry carefully. Sounds to me like your SO might be more off-put by you talking about your ex than about weddings. An ex is not a friend.
Post # 7
Um…that was actually pretty rude to your SO, especially the part about your ex’s financial situation. If I were him this would seriously make me re-think wanting to be with you at all. Sorry.
Post # 8