(Closed) Ex FI getting released today…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 136
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Busy bee

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beachykeenbee :  you ARE doing good! You’re not letting anyone down. 

He is going to sound remorseful, he’s a manipulator. You are not a cliche, you are a woman mourning what could have been. 

Are you any further along with your plans to get out of town for a bit?

Post # 137
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Busy bee

You doing okay, bee? Sending you a hug and hoping both to hear an update and that you’re doing alright.

Post # 139
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Busy bee

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beachykeenbee :  lovely update. I know you’re not out of the woods yet but this is a wonderful step in the right direction.

Your therapist is absolutely right, take back your power!

So good to hear this update

Post # 140
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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beachykeenbee :  What a fantastic update! It sounds like you have a really good therapist. Keep it up Bee! You can do it! 🙂

Post # 141
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Sugar bee

What a great update! This thread is amazing – you started out with an issue, things escalated and you quickly gained clarity about what you needed to do, and you are taking steps towards healing. Kudos to you!!

Post # 142
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Bumble Beekeeper

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beachykeenbee :  Fantastic update! I am happy to hear you are on a path that can lead to your happiness. Hugs!

Post # 143
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

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beachykeenbee :  So glad to hear! My 2 cents on self-esteem… know that feeling secure in your skin is a challenge and journey for everybody. We all have those days, years even. It takes effort. Oftentimes, those who seem to have all the confidence are really overcompensating to hide their flaws, or they can only maintain the high for a short period of time.

You must give yourself gratitude, praise, and appreciation for all the things you know are true and good about you. A shortcut to building self-worth is giving back to your community. Helping others gives us purpose, opens doors, and frankly, makes you an interesting person to talk to and be around!  When you do, people around you will notice! 

Post # 144
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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beachykeenbee :  “I can’t control his awful behavior but I can control my response to future relationships and learning how to set boundaries.” — This is the beginning of a whole new life. It won’t be perfect — nothing is — but it will absolutely be better. My life became much more peaceful and pleasant once I accepted that I can not change others but can and must change my response to them, and that it’s ok for them to be unhappy with my behaviour. If I know I’m doing the right thing, I no longer care if someone else is pissed or sad about it. 

Post # 145
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Honey Beekeeper

Good for you! It sounds as if you are on the right track and getting good support, as well. All the best to you. 

Post # 147
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Busy bee

You’re doing great! We are all cheering for you as you take these brave next steps towards your future happiness.

I know you might not feel this way, but you are handling this with pure strength and grace.

Post # 148
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

Checking on you… You are often in my thoughts. I hope everything is ok and you are safe and well emotionally. 💖 

Post # 149
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Newbee

just a thought. change your phone number, dont give it out, shut the phone off you wont need it for awhile.. then go to one of those cheapy places where you get a phone and buy minutes, pay in cash, i did that once, i dont even think i had to show my drivers license. you give the cheapy phone number to work only & tell them it’s unlisted. then use the cheapy phone forawhile, so if anyone does get your number it wont be one that you will use for more than a few months anyway. also you can get a “google voice” number, you can give that to work and forward it to your real (new & unknown number)

Post # 150
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

aww bee this update makes me so happy.  You’re going down a good path, your therapist sounds great.  Glad to read the update (even if its 3 weeks late hehe)

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