Member- peaches34
- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: City, State
Hi
I joined this site years ago, following my engagement, but we never got married. We were together for 6 years, lived together, had a son (fiance was adopting him when married but raised him from aged 1). Trying for another baby etc. Things were fine (he did cheated earlier on in the relationship- texting) but since June 2017 when we argued fiance would walk out for hours, days at a time longest being a week. He came home and promised he would never walk out again because of the effects it had on our son and myself.
The arguments we had over the above time, was due to money matters, issues with the house (we had a pest problem and fiance decided to withhold the rent which caused me anxiety and also issues between us and we got sent to court) at the same time he worked full time and I was a full time student.
Early 2018, we had finalised everything for our summer wedding. Ready to pay off our last things. In the February we were ok, I went away for a couple of days with our son to visit family. Our wedding rings came and he was sending me pictures of them. The week I came home feb/March, we were arguing over various stupid random things then the beginning March, he went to works do and stayed over at work because he had quite a bit to drink (which he had never done before) next day he came home and we had words because he didn’t let me know he was staying out because I sat up waiting until 1am for him to get home because he said he was. After the argument he walked out saying he is fed up of the arguments which I was too, but I said I couldn’t deal with him walking out anymore.
He said we needed a break and he would be back in a few days. We texted back and forth then a week later he ended it by text. 3 weeks later he came back we spoke about getting back to together and getting our spark back. Sadly a week later, his mum passed away.
I went the funeral which was difficult as you can guess. He said he would contact me next day but never. In May, I wrote a letter talking about everything but I never got a reply, and that was the last contact I had. Apart from the odd text since then. I had to move home, we still have joint Bank accounts, and he is still has contracts for my grandparents on his phone and has been paying them since we split up.
I had to recently text him over the contracts, and we’ve been talking on and off since. Last Friday, we were chatting for 4 hours on the phone about random things, then we met up on Saturday evening. When we sat chatting and stuff I told him I missed him to which he replied he missed me and son. I then said I loved him still despite how he has treated us, we’ve been in each other’s lives for 12 years and I can’t just make him disappear. He said he still has feelings for me and also wants to have a relationship with our son, he stayed away because he didn’t think I would want that. He said he was going to call yesterday and he never. Haven’t heard nothing since. Absolutely gutted because I still love him so much despite all and I just don’t know what to think anymore.
Sorry for long post and thanks for reading.
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