Post # 1
Hi Bees! It has been quite awhile since I’ve been on here and figured I would provide a new update. I broke up with my fiance quite awhile ago. We cancelled everything for the wedding (read prior posts as to what happened). Now, he won’t leave me alone!
For the last five or so weeks, he has been showing up at my work (although we have mutual friends who work there he has NEVER came around this much) saying he wants to talk and that he loves me and needs me around. Then, the next minute he’s yelling that he never wants to see me again and to stop texting him (I don’t text him- his number is blocked). I have seen him on a few occassions since we have broken up just to talk because yes, we were together for a long time and I feel like I owed him that- not anymore.
I started texting another guy recently (nothing serious- we are both just friends and he’s going to be a doctor in the healthcare system I work for and wanted to talk about it blah blah blah). We’ve met for coffee once or twice, but it is strictly just talking about work. I am not ready for dating. Now, my ex is showing up saying I never broke up with him, this is cheating, he trusted me, etc. and called me tonight freaking out that I need to choose between him and this other guy. Then, he had the nerve to go and tell his entire family, our mutual friends at work, and anyone else he could think of that I cheated on him. I am NOT that kind of girl and would NEVER cheat on a person like that. I know he is 100% emotionally abusive, but I do not know how to get him out of my life for good. I block his number, and he shows up at work.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated because this girl is LOST.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
I remember your post about your controlling and manipulative ex, and glad to see that you ended things with him permanently! If this guy can’t take a hint, then it’s time to get a restraining order on him.
Post # 3
Two words: restraining order.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Yep, restraining order. Now.
Post # 5
How does he even know you’re seeing this other guy casually??
Get a restraining order immediately, and consider calling the police next time he shows up. What he’s doing might not necessarily rise to the level of stalking according to the laws in your state, but if I were you I’d want to start a paper trail. And having the police tell him to knock it off might be the kick in the head he needs. (Not to scare you, but obviously, being served with a restraining order or being contacted by the police could also have the opposite effect on him and make his behavior worse. So at all times be aware of your surroundings and your personal safety.)
Post # 6
File a restraining order, he sounds a little cuckoo for cocoa puffs.
Post # 7
Be safe. This guy is a creep.
Post # 8
I fifth or sixth restraining order. He’s harassing you. Also I very much hope that if you’re where you started (i.e. kicked him out) that you’ve changed your locks. Also speak to security at work if you have security – he shouldn’t be allowed entry.
Post # 9
Please get a restraining order before this potentially gets out of hand and god forbid he does something completely irrational that hurts you or someone else.
Post # 10
RO. My ex started this exact way. I ended up having to move across the country.
Do everything the legal way and do it all the time. Report everything. It is the only way to get anything done about it.
Post # 11
This is the guy who wants to be a cop? Oh goody. Please get a restraining order ASAP!
Post # 12
Create distance….like change your # and move !
Post # 13
Change your number for sure – I’d move as well 🙁
Post # 14
Post # 15
YES TO THE RO.
Someone just commented that he wants to be a cop? IF this is true, you gotta talk to a recruiting officer And help put a stop to it.. For everyone’s safety
My ex was a psycho and manipulative – his own dad actually threatened him with a restraining order FOR me, told him to leave me the fuck alone. Funny thing – he wanted to be a cop and he bad the balls, a year later, to ask me to be his reference. I said no. Then I called the police station, spoke with the recruiting officer about his obsessive / manipulative / deranged behaviour. Sent in all the crazy emails and any proof I had – phone records, texts, emails. Needless to say, he’s not a cop.