Post # 16
heyitsnicolelee: I think it’s time to get a restraining order against him. It is getting to be creepy and out of control. He also doesn’t sound quite right in the head, having troubles accepting truth and facts. I wouldn’t want someone like that anywhere near me, unpredictable.
I would also have a word with your management at work. Let them be aware of what is going on. You don’t know whether he will get extra nasty and attack you on the work front, it could hurt you in a variety of ways if he takes it in that direction.
Post # 17
I’d have a very blunt conversation with him, preferably with someone else in the room as a witness. “Let me be very clear. I do NOT want to see you again. I do NOT want to have any contact with you again. I have blocked your number. Leave me alone!” Then if he does it again, get the restraing order. How awful for you to have to go through this. Sounds like you dodged a bullet!
Post # 18
Document and file a restraining order. Call police when he shows up and won’t leave.
Post # 19
What I would do is contact mutual friends and family members and tell them to please not offer any information about you to him, should he ask. Inform them that he has been harassing you at work and accusing you of things even though you have been broken up. This will not only only serve to protect you should cops be involved and they need witnesses, but also so that they can start seeing things from your side and tell him to piss off. The mutual work friends could also help protect you from being seen by him and alert them to suspicious behaviour.
Definitely get the cops involved, ESPECIALLY if he wants to be one himself.
And then start doing some Krav Maga classes pronto. They’re super for self-protection and will empower you, should you find yourself alone with him and scared.
Post # 20
heyitsnicolelee: as per PP – Restraining order. Also, I would be making sure I wasn’t leaving work on my own late at night etc, just keep your witts about you. Sorry to hear that he is still making your life hell. Those who love you and know you will know what he is saying is total bullshit. x