(Closed) ex-friend drama! HELP!!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only negativity is the choice you make to keep harboring these feelings. You can make a conscious choice to forgive and forget.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I dealt with this before and the people that hurt me/talked sh*t about me are still around…so there is not much you can do but move on!

Until you get over the things she has done and stop giving her your energy you will never be able to deal. Pretend it never happened and understand what kind of person does horrible things like that, pray for her and move on…way easier said than done believe me

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

do your friends know what she did? if they don’t i think you should tell them, but while it may upset you that they still hang out with her, they need to choose for themselves who they spend their time with. good for you for distancing yourself from her though, i’m afraid that’s all you can really do

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@anonymous98765:  This might sound crazy and out there (lol) and I don’t know if you believe in God/higher power/karma/positive energy….but I prayed for them and sent positive energy their way.

I took the power away from them. If I let their name/existence aggravate me that means they won! They won when they were in my life and when I tried to get them out of my life! So if their name came up/I saw them around I turned my brain off and tried so hard to ignore it. “Those that anger you, control you.”

Don’t have any other tips really. Have a bitch fest, hate them, print their picture then rip…get it out of your system then move on.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

To hold so much anomosity towards someone is to allow them to have a lot of power over you, you are essentially giving her a parking space in your brain.

You really should try to let it go and move on.  If what you say is true about how she treats people, then they will soon realise it and move on as well.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@anonymous98765:  it will just take time for them to realise how she is, and hopefully then she will be completely out of all your lives 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You’ve just got to let it go. I have a former toxic friend who is still friends with some of my friends and sure there are moments when I wonder why they still talk to her, but those are infrequent and I quickly remind myself that my friends can choose their own friends. It sucks to deal with these things, but at some point, it’s time to put it behind you.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. You have to let it go. Stop talking crap on them to anyone. Don’t complain about them or refuse to go places because of them. Just worry about the things that are important. Hopefully you’ll get better at it as you get older. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

ugh, I have one of these in my life. I feel ya!

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