- 4 years ago
if you look at my previous posts u can see the whole story there
short version: guy was depressing to be around, always negative, i decide to cut him out of my life as he was just too much to deal with
now he decides he wants to CHARGE ME for the DESIGN of a save the date card months later after the fact our friendship is over
he does not do this for a living, he downloaded photoshop and used a picture of mine to make it
we had NO CONTRACT VERBAL WRITTEN OR IMPLIED that i was EVER going to pay him
in return for his services i said thank you bought him drinks/meals/helped him buy clothes NUMEROUS TIMES by husband TUTORED HIM for HOURS, didn’t ask for any money
He likes to sue people so I am thinking he will make it go to small claims court
I have this as evidence that the friendship disintegrated and he was “helping me” and was never a vendor:
Also, He has sent me 2 invoices so far and other things
1. paypaled a $1500 invoice and I ignored it
– he cancelled it when the deadline expire
2. came over/harassed for money and over the phone asked for $700-800
– I said no, ignored it
3. paypaled a $400 invoice and I again ignored it
WTF is going on.
RANDOM DIFFERENT AMOUNTS, Ever since I blocked him, when I went to UNBLOCK his number
I had a voicemail that was dated MONTHS back saying
“I didn’t think it would take you this long or this much space/distance, can you talk to me or let me know what’s going on if you don’t want to be friends anymore so I can move on with my life? I hope that’s not the case, anyway have a good day “
I unblocked his email and got a long email that writes along the lines of:
So you probably do not know but today is my birthday. I thought this year would be different but so far I have no idea yet. I had to send you this email because you never gave me a chance to talk and I feel like I can’t truly move on until I have to say what’s on my mind.
First of all I really don’t believe any of the reasoning for ending our friendship. You said this whole time you were pretending to like/get along with me. If you truly never got along with me in the first place why did you ask me
every day to hang out? Help you with your wedding? Help you with your interview?
Secondly, I feel that the stress got to you and also something happened on your trip with your friends/family made you just give up. I know you don’t like to deal with confrontation as well but I wasn’t going to yell or scream at you. That is not me you know that. I feel the people you are hanging around honestly are a bad
influence it sounds. I know I’m not the only one that feels that way
Really, I don’t have any close friends or anything just drinking buddies you can say. I kind of panicked every time you asked me to be there so I don’t really have that
closeness with anyone so started talking negatively or things I know that would make you like me less.
Now I know maybe my depression was part of the reasoning for ending this, but that’s my fault. My plan was to help you out with all your stuff since it was time sensitive and then kind of have a deep conversation with you to help me out. I know I constantly think negative of myself but it’s something I’ve improved with in therapy and doing my best on my own. I kind of feel that one day I just exploded on you because I was holding everything in for so long and frankly nothing was going to plan on my part at all. So I apologize about that.
Well I think that’s all I have on my mind right now. One thing I learned from this is time heals. The day you texted me to tell me you blocked me I was never so angry in my life. Thoughts came up of you using me and was considering forwarding screenshots of our talks to all of your family, and all the other things to your
friends. But I realized revenge is just temporary and doesn’t fix anything. But if you want to talk yes I’m open to it and yes it may suck in the beginning going through this but in the end makes friendships better dealing with the issues. If not, I understand that you have moved on. Just understand, this is something I wrote because I needed to express my thoughts and feelings, not to make you mad.
IS THIS ENOUGH TO CONVINCE A JUDGE THAT WHAT HE DID FOR ME WAS “HELPING/GIFT” he didn’t expect compensation?
Will this case EVER make it to court?