Post # 1
So, I had some pretty horrible bridesmaid drama when I had my wedding last summer. My friends were really unsupportive and instead of bowing out or saying no thanks when I asked, things got out of hand, pre-wedding events were ruined, and friendships ended. Almost a year later, I realized how lucky I am that those friendships are over. They were very unhealthy, one-sided, and much more competitive/back stabby then any true friendships should ever be. I’ve made my peace with it and moved on. Until now.
Then, for the last few months, everytime I log onto Facebook I see a new crop of pictures from one of the friends never ending wedding partiies (two bachelorette parties, numerous showers, gift making parties, etc) and everyone looks so happy and supportive. Even though I don’t want to reconcile any of these friendships, it does hurt to realize that they can be so overjoyed for each other, but were unable to do that for me (the happiness, not all the numerous parties). I did my best to delete/block all the people I could after the dust settled last year, because I wanted to move on, but we share some mutual friends, so it’s unavoidable that I will be subjected to these never ending pictures.
And, this is why I hate Facebook! haha If it wasn’t for this stupid social networking site, I wouldn’t have any idea what’s going on with them, I wouldn’t be feeling these crappy feelings, and I wouldn’t feel like an idiot for having them.
Did anyone have a situation where Facebook just totally annoyed you? I want to delete it, but I keep in touch with some long distance friends and family that way, so I’m hesitant to do that.
Post # 3
I believe this is what the “hide” button is for. I use it often, I only see like half my friends and my friends list is tiny.
Post # 4
@KatyElle: Exactly or delete from your friends list all together. That way you don’t have to see any of their pictures.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
As you said– they weren’t healthy relationships and you’re better off without them.
Post # 7
Why are you even friends with them on FB anyway? Stop torturing yourself and DELETE THEM! You will be much happier.
Post # 8
Ugh I hear you. I am just recently going through this and it sucks. We have a few mutual friends that I don’t want to unfriend just because of what happened but I hate seeing things show up in my newsfeed that include the ex friends. It hurts. I usually hide the picture or status as soon as I see it but I already saw it so it still brings back the hurt. If you block your old friends then they shouldn’t come up as often unless it’s just pictures of them that they are in but haven’t been tagged in. Sorry you’re dealing with this. 🙁
Post # 9
Facebook can definitely lead to hurt in situations like these or make people feel left out, etc. Like others said, I make use of the “hide” button on my newsfeed when things people post start getting to me. I’m sorry hun, but try to remember all the wonderful people you do have in your life and ignore those toxic ex-friends!
Post # 10
First, if they aren’t your friends anymore, why are yous till frings on FB? DELETE! FB and all its annoying HS drama suck! That’s why I hit the delete button and gotten rid of mine!
Post # 11
@Legallyblondiebride: LOL I’m not! However, we are all from the same hometown so a lot of our friends overlap. I feel weird deleting mutual friends for the simple reason is that I don’t want to see the pictures. I guess I should hide all our mutual friends altogether, which is an easy solution but a pain in the butt because it’s a lot of people.
Post # 12
@leebaby711: I just hide people as they pop up on my newsfeed. I didn’t go through and do a mass “hide” or anything. And every time I do it, it feels like I’m ridding my life of just a bit of negativity.
Post # 13
@ShutterbugCait: I’m sorry to hear you are going through it too. I hid a few of our closest friends, since we were a big group of best friends growing up, right away. However, I ended up missing one of my friend’s baby announcement because I had her statuses and everything hid on my newsfeed. She asked me why I didn’t comment a week later and I was like “ummm, I was busy the last few days?” Whatever happened to calling or even texting someone happy news? haha
Post # 14
I think the OP said that she did delete those friends off of her account. The problem is that they have some mutual friends, and she sees those pictures.
That being said, I do agree! You can try to block everything, but something can come up unknowingly. I usually just try to hide everything right away, so I don’t have to look at it too much. I had this one girl sort of nudge me out of the group of friends. It hurts when I see all of them together, but not me anymore. I’ve just had to hide the pictures.
Sometimes, Facebook can really suck.
Post # 15
@Gemstone: Thanks for the tip! I’ll have to do that as well, since I don’t have the time to go through everyone that we might share a connection with. I like what you said about ridding your life of negativity! I’m really trying to do that, and it annoys me that something as dumb as Facebook could ruin my day. Damn you Mark Zuckerberg! lol
Post # 16
@leebaby711: Yeah…it’s a pain in the butt when you see that your friend is commenting on someone’s photo that you aren’t friends with. And it stinks that you have to hide that person just so that you don’t see those photos. I don’t care when friends comment with people I don’t know! I wish there was another type of feature that you could just see when they comment on things with people you DO know. Just seems silly.
Don’t let Facebook ruin your day. They may look all happy and supportive, but who is to say they aren’t causing drama in that person’s wedding too? And just think, you don’t have to be a part of it…woohoo!