Post # 1
Well, I’d be curious on your take on this…
My ex-husband has a longtime gilrfirend who i sactually a very nice person. Our son and her sons are very close. Now that I am soon to be married, my Fiance and I decided to invite them. For a number of reasons…1) to show my son that life will go on and he can love both his dad and his new stepdad….2) so that he can have his “buds” there for his own personal “VIP” table.
To give you some background, he sees them every other weekend and he loves those kids.
Now, my ex could care less (don’t want to even begin to imagine the conversation over there) and I don’t expect him to be there. But I assured her that she and herboys were invited in either case.
She now thinks that she should not come to the reception. This is her choice, but I extended the invite mainly for my son. She did say that she would be at the ceremony. I don’t want to cause friction or get in the middle, but what would you do in situation?
Try to get her and the boys to come to the reception or simply let her make her decision and don’t say anything.
Ironically, we stressed over whether to invite them or not and it seems to be a moot point. LOL
Post # 3
I would let it go and “simply let her make her decision and don’t say anything.” Your son knows that you have extended the invitation to them. The ball will be in their court. And your son will know that it wasn’t your decision for them not to come, if that is what happens.
Post # 4
I think that it is a very nice gesture to invite her and the boys. I think all you can do is send the invite and leave it up to her. She knows that you want her there, and it is up to her to make the decision to come to the reception.
Post # 5
Totally agree with noritake22. Congratulations to you for being a mature adult. I’m not sure I could ever do that. But in all seriousness, bravo.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
I think this is a very nice gesture. You are being very mature and it’s so good for your son to have a good relationship with his dad/stepmom (dad’s gf) I think you should just invite them to both the ceremony and reception and maybe follow up with a little handwritten note a few days later and say essentially what you’ve written here. “It means so much to me that you have welcomed my son into your family and I would love if we could all get together and celebrate our new “modern” family” Good luck!
Post # 7
Thanks for the feedback and support. I will let her decide and leave it alone. At least my son knows that we are ok with everything.
Post # 8
Exactly- awesome gesture inviting them. As long as they know they’re invited, and your son knows you hope they can come, all you can do is leave the ball in their court.