(Closed) ex husband ruining plans

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My mom’s ex is like this and it drives her crazy. Sorry that you’re dealing with it. What my mom does that works for her is to just plan on him not doing what he says he will. So plan on him not picking up the kids and arrange for a home activity or babysitter. While it’s not fair that your ex doesn’t hold up his end of the bargin, planning for his bad behavior in advance can make your life less stressful

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry.  I know how tough it is to not be able to depend on an ex to help with coparenting and also what it’s like to not have much or any extended familly to depend on for help either.  Unfortunately, I don’t have any great advice on how to make it better, because I haven’t been able to figure that out for myself.  I’ve had talks with my ex, but he doesn’t seem to care enough to make a change.  So, all I can suggest is have a back up plan for the elopement day.  Just in case.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

“locked up”?….as in jail?

I think i’d be more worried that he was watching my kids than if he wasn’t!

Have you tried joining any mom groups or forums in your area? Every time my SIL has moved, she’s gotten instant friends that help out with the kids that way!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@crayfish:  I have to agree on the locked up part.  I wouldn’t trust leaving the kids alone with him.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It sounds like you need to go have a parenting plan revisement. He fails to show often, and now most recently due to incarceration? Hell no. Period. At the very least, argue for supervised visitations in a neutral location, on his dime. That is just ridiculous. Those poor babies, being let down like that.

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