(Closed) Ex invited to the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

No way!  I can’t think of any reason either of our exes would be invited or even want to come.  However, I suppose there might be some cases where people remained friends.  But for us, no way would we invite either of our exes. 

This is a very interesting question, though, can’t wait to see all the answers, lol. 

Post # 4
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have a fairly good working relationship with Fiance’s ex-wife (divorced 9 years) due to his son. There’s zero emotional baggage from that relationship, because they both openly admit they only got married because she got pregnant and her parents pressured them both into the marriage.

Anyway, his son, who is 11 with a wild imagination, said he needs a +3 on his invitation because him mom, step dad, and step sister want to come to the wedding…we nixed that really quick 🙂  We have no issue sitting with them at flag football, but would never pay $90/head to have them at the wedding!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

FI’s ex wife called and ASKED for an invite. Mind you, we got a save the date but no formal invite to her wedding.

Um, no.

Post # 6
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My ex would definitely NOT be invited. However, Fiance had the option of inviting his ex. She’s actually a really nice person and I wouldn’t have cared one way or the other. She isn’t going to get invited though, we ran out of space.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m not sure what’s going to happen, I doubt we’ll be inviting the ex, he’s still pretty angry. The only reason I could see her being there is if things got a little less intense between them and IF it was a condition of his daughter being there, she’ll only be 6 1/2 by the time we get married.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha I used to be pretty close to an ex of mine and my boss one day asked if I was inviting him to the wedding. I looked at her in horror and said of course not! Then she informed me that at her wedding, both her Darling Husband and she had invited exes — Darling Husband actually had an ex-fiancee in the audience! I couldn’t believe it. She was so righteous about it that I finally had to say what my Fiance said to me on the subject:

“I think the only person at your wedding who knows what kind of face you make when you have an orgasm should be the person you’re marrying.”

She was the one looking horrified after that 😛

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Neither of us is close with any ex’s, so it was a non-issue. If one of us was close friends with an ex, they’d probably be invited/

Post # 10
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9732 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@PinkFlemingo:  HAHAHAHAHA!!! LMAO!!!  I’m gonna remember that one.

Post # 12
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@PinkFlemingo:  Ugh.

We’d have to can the best man.

EmbarassedEmbarassedEmbarassed

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

None are invited and we don’t have any contact with them anymore. They are our ex’s for a reason! 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For Fi and I this was/is a touchy subject. For the time being Fiance has won this argument because of many reasons.
I have a guy who since the 4th grade has been my BEST friend. We did everthing together. Same schools- even thru college, same activities everything. Well all our lives everyone thought we would end up together. It was never IF we got married it was WHEN. Well after highschool we actually officially tried to date(we pretty much dated unofficially thru high school since we spent all our timne together) well it didnt go so well, I was ready to move out of my parents house settle into llife an possibly get engaged. While he was still trying to “find” himself-umm look in a mirrior- and wasn ready for comitment (really 10 years and you arent ready?) so we ended up just decideding to remain friends. Which we accomplished really well actually only we starteddrifting apart. I started dating and he got caught in in trying to play proffessional babseball and even tho any time  one of us needed anything we were there i=we just werent as close as we once were.

So fast forward 3 years and I am with now Fiance and we have our son. My friend wanted to be there/ and I wanted him there to at least see the baby ( not while I was in labor) he decided no to come since Fiance wasnt excited about it and he wanted to be respectful. I was really not happy about this and after about 2 months I finally made to trip to his house with baby.

We went thru the same thing converstaion when our son was baptized and friend actuall showed up at church sat in the back and watched my son be babptized. Which was very inportant to me.No one else knew he was there I dont think cause no one said anything.

And now our wedding, friend supports our marriage and wants me to be happy and he knows I love Fiance. But Fiance even after talking to him meeting him ect ect still is weird about us being friends and he says it is because we dont talk all the time… UM WTF sorry I dont have to talk to everyone I know every day to remain close (sigh) sorry this has been on my mind.

 

So yes and no my ex will be at our wedding he will honestly probably do the same thing as with my sons baptism sit in the back watch the ceremony and then go home( he wont be at the reception) but it is sad to me things have to be this way

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