(Closed) Ex jealousy??

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think if your Fiance hasn’t shown any signs of caring for her, then you should trust him. If he says he’s where he wants to be, I’d believe him.  Afterall, he is with you! (not her)

Honestly, he’s probably upset that he let himself get talked into it in the first place.  A vasectomy is a sensitive issue with most men.  The fact that he did this for her and now she wants more kids, I’m sure is hard on him.  Not because he cares about her but because he bares the effects of her not wanting more kids. He’s the one that can’t have more when it was she that didn’t want them.

I’d say, let it go for awhile and see what he says.  He might just need time to get a handle on his emotions.

 

Post # 4
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think you have anything to worry about!

He wanted something with her and she won’t give it to him and now he finds out that she wants what he originally wanted. Of course this is going to bring up old hurt feelings – that doesn’t mean he wants to be with her and isn’t happy with you It’s just bringing up old feelings that he will get over with time.

Has he talked to a doctor about a reversal? I only ask this because there is only a window of time that a reversal can successfully be done! So if you guys are considering children in your future it may be better to do the reversal sooner rather than later just in case!

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think if he hasn’t shown any signs of caring about what she did before than it’s probably just resentment he has held onto from her basically forcing him to get a vasectomy and not trying for a boy.

As far as having more kids, I would wait until you are both 100% on yes or no before he gets his vasectomy reversed. I can’t imagine it would be plesant to get it undone, then redone because you or him changed your mind!

Good luck!

Post # 7
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i agree – i do not believe he has any unresolved feelings for his ex, i just think it was a bit of a shock to hear that she might be thinking of more children, meaning his girls may have steps and how this changes his family structure.  btw, maybe he was also thinking that maybe he cant give you children and that was playing on his mind and he might be thinking he doesnt want to disappoint you if you should decide one day that you want them

 

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