(Closed) EX just called – vent post somewhat long

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Obviously you made the right decision since the x wound up in Jail….. he’s jealous. I would just forget that you ever talked to him and block that number so he can’t call/text you anymore.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh yes.  Bottom line, he is jealous.  you said he is a volatile person, and thats how he handled it.  Exes have a way of scraggling back, it sounds to me thats what he is trying to do – he isnt over you.   Hes likely hurt that you are getting married, and rather than hiding that, he blurted out the first thing that came to mind, which was hurtful.  This answer aside, that is inexcusable.  Dont even acknowledge his snarky comment and realize that that comment right there is why he was NOT worth marrying and your FH is.  And if that number pops up again, ignore.

something similar did happen to me.  He said some hurtful things which REALLY enforced my decision (and he had broken up with me.)  I now no longer speak to him at all.  He defriended me on FB which, to him, is the ULTIMATE insult.  That makes me giggle lol. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

In My Humble Opinion, don’t be angry.  Don’t let him get to you because I am sure that he is not losing time over this conversation.  He may be jealous, he may be regretting what he has lost (you), he may be pondering what it could have been…who knows?  But you being worked up only affects you, not him.  This could be just his lame way of letting you know that he misses you or what it could’ve been or whatever.  Not to be grossly stereotyping, but we’ve all experienced "men" not being able to communicate whatever it is they are feeling (or not feeling).  Leave it at that.  🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had an old friend/aquaintence who I lost touch with because he had been crushing on me for a couple years, and was a little too persistant.  A couple months ago he randomly called my work while I was covering for the receptionist’s lunch (for 1 hour!).  He recognized my voice just from my "Good Afternoon, insertcompany’sname"and freaked out that I had changed my cell phone number and not given it to him, and that I was engaged and didn’t tell him (I still have NO idea how he found out.  we have almost no mutual connections)

He said things like, "you’re making the wrong decision", "You need to invite me to your wedding, I want to congratulate you in person", "how come you never gave me a chance".  I was totally thrown off by it and flustered, I didn’t know what to say. After the call I got really angry and wish I’d defended myself more…but now I live 2000 miles away and he doesn’t have my phone number so I think I"m ok!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Don’t let him get to you! He said it b/c he clearly wanted to get under your skin. If you just let it roll off your back, never answer the number again and ride off into the sunset with your Fiance, THAT will get under HIS skin

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Jealous!  Lalala!  It just means you are awesome and that you’re Fiance is lucky.  And, now you know not to answer the mysterious caller.  Good for you!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ex’s can be so weird sometimes…. calling out of the blue when they know you are happy… I would block his number… there should be a feature on your phone or you can call the cell company and aske them to block it from your device… its one of the most magical inventions ever!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My ex didn’t realize that I was awesome until I was walking out the door. He then told me the HE had made the biggest mistake of his life by screwing up so bad. It nearly killed me. We had been together for 8 years, married for 3. Did it really take that long to realize how awesome I am?

Walk away, and don’t look back.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

Bleck! Block his number and forget about him, you obviously made the right decision breaking up w/ him.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Block him and forget about it. He’s jealous, and he’s obviously a bit dense — he might also have been "getting back at you" for taking a dig at him by insinuating that he wasn’t worth marrying. (Not that he was, or that you shouldn’t have said so, but that might be why he said what he did in return.)

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hubby had an ex from about 10yrs ago phone him at his office last year and accuse him of following her (which he isnt-she lives about 20miles away) and hijacking her email account (which he hasnt). 

due to the security nature of his job he was a bit freaked out at the potential outfall if the ex decided to make a big deal out of it, plus he was worried about me so he notified his boss of the accusations for just in case. he said to me later that he wished he defended himself more firmly and told her to **** off but he was in such a huge shock to hear from her after all these years he didnt even remember who she was at first

@jaydee… my 2c is that i reckon the guy was touching base with the past and hoping to find other people havent been having such a great life while hes been in prison – jealousy and all that.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes, I have. ! I know how you feel! They get mad when I don’t want to talk, they pull the whole "I miss you" thing, and it just takes a lot ouit of you!

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