(Closed) Ex-Mom Drama!! (Super Long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’d calmly let your mom know what you found out so that she can make her own decision. It’s possible that your “friend” has enough in savings to cover herself for awhile. Maybe she just wants to be around some connection to her past since her own son won’t talk to her.

Post # 7
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yikes, I’m sorry.  What a tricky situation.  It sounds like both you and your mom are very helpful and compassionate people, and are doing a really generous thing for someone who’s in need.  But I can completely understand why you’re worried, considering the circumstances.  Do you know her daughter at all?  Since she’s the only one who can really do anything about it, could you call her and fill her in on everything’s that’s happened?  If K’s not the best communicator, her daughter might not realize that she could really use some help.  It’s possible that if she understood what was going on she might immediately invite her mom to come live with her.  Either way, I’m guessing that K’s probably really grateful for you kindness, even if she’s being pretty clueless about bringing up your ex all the time!  If you don’t know her daughter, maybe you can gently remind K about her daughter and her 2 friends in California and suggest that she contact them.  I wonder if she didn’t mention this to other people because she felt embarrassed, but knew that it was safe to tell you because she knew that you’d be kind enough to help.  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I am super confused as to why all of this is happening because I haven’t followed all the drama very closely, but I hope this works out! It sounds like a monstrous headache.

Post # 9
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Weird weird weird!! This lady is very fishy. I would definetly tell your mom all the things you found out and help your mother come up with a solution for this lady. Whats her medical background????? If shes not stable then what would you guys do if something happened with her? I bet she doesnt even have insurence since she just up and left her job. Im sure she lost all benifits. I would almost get in touch with your ex and tell him whats going on. Even if he doesnt talk to her it is still HIS mother. But I understand if you really dont want to do that. If anything you need to call her daughter and tell her exactly where shes at. Someone needs to take control of the situation because it sounds like this lady isnt stable. And I have a feeling K might take your mom for all shes got. Especially if K is mad about you getting re-married she will probably take out her bitterness on the closest person. Every action has a reason behind it. And she has hers…shes just not telling you guys about it. So its your job to find out now. I wish you the best of luck!!!!!!!!

Post # 11
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

have you ever thought for your mum to contact the ex and not you? he should be looking after his family!

Post # 12
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Umm…I have no idea why anyone would suggest contacting your ex…obviously he was done with her 10 years ago.  He’s not going to start caring now.  I’d just NOT ever do that.  What a can of worms!  Sounds like your mom has it covered.  Way to go Mom!

Post # 13
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Whoa, that’s a lot to process.  I can’t imagine what is going through your head.  Sounds like too much drama, especially during a happy time for you guys.  I hope it all gets worked out soon!

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