Post # 1
Hello all- We posted an ad for a live-out nanny and we had someone apply. I will call her ‘Nanny T’. She provided us with a written recommendation from a prior employer. The number listed went straight to VM. Nanny T said the family ‘were probably still in Europe for the Summer’. I later did an online background check and found no criminal or past bad records. We hired Nanny T, $400 a week payable every Friday.<br /><br /> Nanny T, during the interview, had informed us that the commute was suitable and she would be able to make it on time. The first week, she commuted from her home to our house, there were no issues, she got along well with our child. We paid her enough and even paid for the metro train charges. <br /><br /> The following week, while my husband was out of the country, Nanny T informed me that she had living arrangement issues. Could she crash in with us for only 2 weeks – she had already discussed with my husband (I later confirmed this to be a lie when husband returned)? I cautioned her that we are not looking for such an arrangement, but gave in because I needed help. She lived in our basement for two weeks and we continued paying her full wage for those two weeks she lived with us. We both understood that it was only a 2 week temporary accomodation while she got her living situation sorted out.<br /><br /> At the end of the Second week, Nanny T changed her story. She needed to live with us for another week. My husband was back home and we told her a blatant NO. If she couldn’t be a live-out nanny, she had to go. She protested demanded to stay with us for another week. We stood our ground and said no. She left on a Saturday morning, after arguing with us back and forth refusing to go.<br /><br /> The texts started arriving. First, saying our son had behavioral issues (this is a lie, he is a great kid) and she was reporting us to the authorities.<br /> Then asking for a severance pay.<br /> Then saying she was concerned about us, do we need help?<br /> We did not respond to any of her messages and asked her not to contact us again. The texts are still coming, threatening us. And so on. I am frightened. Has anyone ever experienced this? We have had great babysitters in the past, so this is a shock to us. We had just moved to a new city when this happened.
Post # 2
You didn’t do anything wrong. She sounds like she has issues…I have a neighbor that acts like this but she’s not a nanny…if you are really scared, get a restraining order. Especially if your husband goes out of the country a lot.
Post # 3
I haven’t had experience in this (thankfully) but I suggest changing all locks on your doors in case she made a key. I would also tell her that if she doesn’t stop harassing you then you will go to the police and follow through with that threat if she doesn’t stop. She sounds crazy and I’m glad you got her out of your house.
Post # 4
You don’t have to pay severance, she worked with you for less than the standard probationary period.record all the texts, inform her you are doing so, and if she does not desist in contacting you you will be going to the police to have here charged with harassment.
Post # 5
Go the authorites, at this point its harrasement.
Post # 6
bklynbridetobe: this is good advice. I also second changing your locks. What a nut.
Post # 7
Two words: Restraining Order.
Post # 8
I would go to the police and get a restraining order. She sounds unstable. I would also get some security cameras if possible.
Post # 9
shakazulu: Here is what I would do:
1. Change all the locks on your doors and make it a habit to lock the doors when you aren’t entering or exiting the house. You don’t know whether she made a copy or if she could be dangerous. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
2. Document all the messages she sends you. Keep a log somewhere of when she contacts you and what she uses to contact you (ie. Tuesday August 26, 2014 at 3:00 pm via text). Do not delete or get rid of anything she sends you.
3. Inform her that you and your Darling Husband have no obligation to pay her severance pay. Also inform her that you are keeping a record of her messages and, should she contact you ever again, you will be informing the police about the situation.
4. Follow through on this promise if she contacts you after that for any reason.
1. If you are concerned about her attempting to come to the house then maybe you should invest in security cameras.
2. If you don’t have a security system already, then you may want to consider getting one installed.
Post # 10
shakazulu: I had read a story, somewhat similar to this a few weeks back. They found a live-in babysitter on Craigslist without doing a background check. The woman was a squatter and refused to leave their house, and with California law, she now had rights to live there. Come to find out, she did this type of stuff all of the time, and was sue happy.
I’m so glad you didn’t allow her to stay. Her living situation is not your problem, and it’s very unprofessional for her to even ask.
I would save all of her texts, emails, or voicemails and seek to get a restraining order against her. She is harassing you. She sounds like she could be mentally unstable.
Post # 11
shakazulu: that is terrifying! I would report it and see if you can get A no contact order.
Post # 12
File a police report now…have everything documented from the very beginning.
Post # 13
Thank you, everyone. We did take our keys back before she left, but I am changing my locks first thing tomorrow morning. This is unerving. We have learned a painful lesson regarding hiring nannies. She took advantage of us because we were new in town (Washington DC).
I cannot believe this is happening to us. I just ready the story about the nanny in Craiglist situation and I cannot fathom how messed up people are. I regret ever leaving my son with this woman while we went to work. We did a crappy due diligence, that’s one thing I regret.
I am also afraid that she may do this (or something worse) to another family.
Post # 14
PPs already gave good advice, but if you’re worried she’ll do this again you should see if she advertises her services online anywhere, such as care.com or sittercity.com. You can contact the sites to let them know what happened and leave reviews.
Post # 15
I just wanted to update everyone. The psycho is still texting us even after I sent a strongly worded legal warning cautioning her stay away from us. Oddly, she is not talking about wanting to live with us, she is now threatening to call child protective services ‘because we are bad parents’ and ‘she is very concerned about our son’s behavior’. He is a good kid, and is only 8 years old.
I just filed a restraining order.