- 5 years ago
I am hurt and devestated by some things my most recent ex “said” to me (texted me) a couple of days ago. We have been broken up for three months, and were only together for four months (although it was a whirlwind relationship and we’ve known each other for a long time). Basically, I ended things with him when I discovered he was doing hardcore drugs and lying constantly to me.
I am a college-educated professional with a career, a home, an awesome salary and a bright future, so I decided I did not need to be associated with that lifestyle. He is a military vet who is disabled and can’t work. It got to the point where I was leaving work in the middle of the day to check on him and make sure he was still alive. You’d think that would be motivation enough for me to run away screaming into the night, but I love him/fell hard for him and hoped he would stop the drugs and turn his life around so I kept in contact with him via email, text and phone calls (but never saw him in person). In the three months we’ve been broken up, he has made all kinds of promises to change and has begged me to take him back, keeps telling me he loves me, etc. etc. Although I have responded to his texts and phone calls, I have kept my distance and let him know that I don’t have any interest in being relationship with him considering the circumstances… and considering he is an addict that has not sought professional help yet.
A couple of weeks ago, he finally said it would be too difficult to just be my friend because he is in love with me and asked me to stop all contact with him. So I did. Then out of the blue this past week, he starts texting me. One day he text and said he was on vacation and while he has been gone someone broke into his apartment. I pointed out to him that it was probably someone he knows (one of his drug friends) who knew he was going to be on vacation.
Then he starts berating me about how his drug friends are his true friends and would stand by him no matter what, unlike me. He said “at least they have lives and are happy” and he said he realized he was “glorifying our relationship in his head and realized all we did was sit around watching TV.” That last part is sort of true, but the only reason was because he didn’t have any money to go out, didn’t want to go out, and refused to let me pay for us to go out. He said he was over me, and was going to “go back to dating hotties” (aka whores) and said I was “super controlling.” I said, “Controlling? All I asked you to do was not do drugs and not cheat on me. Oh God, how controlling!” He said he can do better than me and said, “Have a nice life sitting around reading about other people’s lives.”
He has a daughter who lives in another state that he never sees… so I went for the jugular and said, “Have a nice life disappointing your daughter.” He laughed and said it was a low blow. Then I blocked his number, blocked his email, blocked him on facebook, deleted every single text or email he’s ever sent me, erased his photos and threw out every note, present, etc. he’s given me.
I know I shouldn’t be hurt by what he said because he’s obviously an asshole, but I don’t understand how things went from him saying he loves me and misses me to THAT in a matter of two days. He has never talked to me like that before and I guess it was just a shock. I am the ONLY girl who has ever broken up with HIM… He is very charismatic but is a certified narcissist and a man whore.
Was I out of line by suggesting it was his friends who robbed him? Is that why he got so angry at me?