(Closed) Ex who dumped me asked me on date- then CANCELS!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@AussieSummer:  Seriously, tell this guy to never contact you again. I can’t get over how much he has messed you around and gone back and forth. That is not how you treat someone you care about and you deserve better.

Post # 4
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@AussieSummer:  I had an ex like that. Back and forth for so long, all initiated by him. We’d break up, i’d be devestated, I wouldn’t contact him at all and then out of the blue he would call/msg me and say I’m the one and he can’t live without me. We’d start up again and then it would happen all over again.

My advise? Walk away. Don’t give him the satisfaction of making all the decisions, you deserve better and you will find better I guarentee it. Once I knew my ex and I were 100% over, the weight off my shoulders was amazing. I was sad sure but I also felt so free! You don’t need the drama and you don’t need someone who’s going to mess you around.


Post # 5
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@AussieSummer:  You deserve so much better! I’d totally stop speaking to him, at least until you can build a happy and exciting life WITHOUT him and feel sure he can’t make you cry again!

Post # 6
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Are you kidding me??? What an asshole, cut ties with him completely. He doesn’t deserve your time and you deserve better than to have someone like him waste yours.

Post # 7
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Like everyone else said (and is going to say) – you NEED to just cut this guy off for good. Just DO NOT TALK TO HIM EVER AGAIN.  Please.

Post # 8
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

yeah. move on! after feeling the way you’ve been feeling since he canceled, i don’t think you could find it in your heart to forgive him. 

hopefully this time apart will help him decide what he really wants… 

Post # 9
522 posts
Busy bee

I’m surprised you even accept his calls still. I have read your previous posts and you need to go cold turkey. Change your number, email, block him from social media accounts. Be done with it on your terms. 

Post # 10
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AussieSummer:  Oh hun, I’m so sorry.

please please block this (rude word deleted) guy. If he approaches you again, give yourself the satisfaction of being the one to say “no”.

Post # 11
467 posts
Helper bee

@busybee3791:  +1.  Block him.  Change your phone number, email, ect.  Its totally easier to ignore someone when you don’t know they are trying to contact you.  He is yanking you around for his own ego boost without regard to your feelings.  Don’t let him do that. 

I am truely sorry you are going through this.  

Post # 12
992 posts
Busy bee

@paula1248:  +1

you have to get your power back & not allow him to think he has all the control and you are just going to be sitting there waiting for him with open arms.. im sure you know you deserve better but you also love him so its hard to let go. we have all been there, and even though you may be emotional/sad/hurt/ and think u will never get over it or find someone who made you feel how he did, you will, eventually. take your time in healing, & try to really let go. 

Post # 13
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Not for the first time this asshat is playing cruel mindgames with you. Please, please, cut him out of your life for once and for all after this latest episode.

Post # 14
1886 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AussieSummer: honey, you’re giving him a lot of power by letting him contact you whenever he wants. Cut him off so you can begin healing. if he loved you, he would act like it. Actions speak louder than any sweet words. He doesn’t care about you even as a friend, or he would never do this. 

Post # 15
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@AussieSummer:  please cut him off. No communication means his words and actions can no longer hurt you.

Post # 16
36 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AussieSummer:  I am furious on your behalf for him treating you like this. I am so sorrry- it’s completely understandable that you would need a good cry and time to process. I wouldn’t give him another chance again. Hugs!


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