(Closed) ex-wife makes me wonder

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@hecallsmelove: As my Fiance explains it “Everyone is crazy in their own way”. There is a good type and a bad type. My Fiance also dated crazy people… but the bad kind. He says I’m more quirky and good crazy.

Or you could just be the difference he needed that he didn’t see back than. His exe’s were also extremely different than me… down to looks and personality. It might just be a man thing. He changed and grew up and now he wants different things out of life.

Either way he loves you and so does his family… so you can’t be like her 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You’re not crazy. Darling Husband dated a psycho before me and I had similar feelings. I’m content in knowing that it was a long time ago and he’s changed and that while you are IN a relationship a person appears different. Its very telling that the whole family didn’t like her.

Post # 5
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305 posts
Helper bee

crazy as in mentally ill?  it’s not contagious so don’t worry!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wasn’t crazy when I married my ex.  He made me crazy.  

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@GroovyHippieChick: lol i married a man that had a “crazy” ex wife.  fifteen years later,  i became the “crazy” ex wife. he has gone on to date several more “crazy” women.  my son asked how does a man get so unlucky that he picks every crazy woman out there?  i think he’s the common denominator LOL  i have been in a stable relationship for over three years and have never been called crazy by my Fiance.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@hecallsmelove: i would only worry if he has a string of crazy exes. one is ok.  several? red flag 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Haven’t you ever dated a total nutbar?  Well, I have and it in no way reflects on my Fiance, trrrrrrrrust me!  I think good people just make bad decisions sometimes.  It doesn’t mean that your Fiance has a “type” that you and his ex both fit into.  Maybe he’s grown up since then and realized that he wants to be in a happy and healthy relationship!

Post # 13
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Lol @ all of the replies. My FH’s ex wife is a few fries short of a happy meal too. I question it too sometimes, but I am wayyyyy better than her..and FH is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. You are not the only one lol

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My husband’s ex wife is a vindictive bi**h. I wondered the same thing for a while, how could he have been with someone who treated him so badly?

The short, uncomplicated answer is that he married her very young and didn’t know any better. He’s laid back to a fault, and it doesn’t occur to him to complain about much,  and until the end when it got really bad he didn’t realize how bad it was. 

He says that he didn’t even see how selfish she was until he and I got together and he saw how different things were.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

FI’s ex wife was a BITCH… everyone I meet (including some of her friends) say how much of a bitch she is and how she took advantage of Fiance and all that…  Everyone always says that I’m the better one and he did so well this time etc… but I can’t help but wonder  sometimes… we are SO different, she was/is a blonde, big boobed, heavily made up (never left the house without makeup type), yorkie toting bimbo (if I do say so myself… she seriously thought eminem and vanilla ice were the same person) and I… well, I have brown hair, regular sized boobs, I rarely wear makeup and I will never own a little dog… and I know that eminem and vanilla ice are two separate people. Tongue Out lol

I can’t help but wonder what he was thinking…  I totally see where your coming from, but when I start to think like that I remind myself that he learned from his mistakes and chose me instead of a clone of his ex. Wink

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