(Closed) Exact Wedding Date Stolen!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
44 posts

wow!!!! That is just crazy. Why on earth would she not just call you and ask when your date was if she wasn’t sure. That is soooo rude of her!

Post # 4
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow! What a horrible cousin. I do not even know what to say, I would be really upset. I would just invite the people you want to invite and then make sure they RSVP if they are coming or not.

Post # 5
6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

what a b*tch. 

Post # 7
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If your FI’s cousin wasn’t sure if your wedding date was Sept or Oct and didn’t bother to find out she obviously didn’t care and did what she wanted. Plus to have the date tattood is pretty bold. It’s like she’s saying “Well I can’t change the date now, I have it tattood on my body”. She doesn’t seem to bright to not even ask for sure.

I think it would be hard for your FI’s family to try to make it to both weddings. If her’s is at 2pm and to allow for travel time they’d have only a few hours to enjoy the reception. The only thing you can do is ask her nicely to change her date and if her only excuse is her tattoo theres always artists that do great cover up work. If she refuses then I’d either try to move your ceremony time later or not count on his family being there even if they say they’ll try to come. If they’re having fun at her wedding it would be hard to pry themselves away and not end up showing up.

I wish I had better advise for you, you’re in a tough situation. Good luck.

Post # 8
44 posts

Ask her to change the 3 in her tattoo to an 8

Post # 9
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cilantro_pancake:  “Didn’t know?” Sounds completely pre-meditated, if you ask me. Like, “Oops, I even got a tattoo of it, that’s how unsure of your exact date I was!”

Like other PPs said, couldn’t she just have called? Yikes. No advice, just hugs and sympathy!

Post # 10
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you haven’t done Save The Dates yet, do them NOW. Go to the store, buy some cheap ones, hand write in your name and date, and send them out to everyone on that side of the family (except cousin’s immediate family who will obviously go to hers no matter what). Do that TODAY.

Then follow-up with phone calls in a week or so, explaining that you picked your date first, you announced your date first, you paid deposits first, you send Save The Dates first, and so you believe your wedding takes precedence.

Post # 11
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@bythebeach:  +1 haha! But seriously, the same thing happened to my cousin with a cousin from her other side of the family, minus the tattoo. Basically it split her dad’s family in half with some attending one wedding and some the other. My cousin was disappointed as she had the date long before her other cousin decided on it too. Very rude and inconsiderate. Maybe you’ll just have a slightly smaller guest list after rsvps arrive than you originally expected. As for ppl replying they’ll try to be there and then not showing up…that’ll happen no matter what. You will pay for their plate b/c you have to. Some ppl just dont get wedding ettiquette at all.  I’m sorry this happened, just focus on your day and those who will make you their priority. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow, no words. I’m shocked.

Can you change your date? Its far enouhg in advance that you could move it to the 14th? I know, I know, why should you try to change your date, but why deal with all this drama and stress. I’d try to change my date since its 10 months away, explaining to vendors exactly what your trashy cousin did, and I’m sure they would have no problem moving it one day, hell even he following weekend. Then I would notify this cousin that she is no longer welcomed to attend. Thats just me though………..

Post # 13
1647 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

wowwwww, I’m so sorry  :/


Post # 14
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

@paula1248:  +1

I hope that you will back to update us!

Post # 15
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

What a bitch!  I hope all the venues in her area are already booked for that date.

Post # 16
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013


Unbelievable! A certain name comes to my mind when I read this…..She is a C-U-Next-Tuesday! 

I am so sorry you’re having to deal with this! *hugs* 

What do you think you’re gonna do?

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