(Closed) Exboyfriend got married

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 95
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6013 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@Confuscious10:  I think you are placing the blame all on him and even though he is the main one at fault here since he’s the one who was engaged and married he is not the only one who didn’t make great choices. You need to reevaluate your own behavior as well. Yes he reached out to you when he shouldn’t have but you responded and you continuously let him back in even though you knew he was engaged and then married. He is obvioulsy a dog and he needs to be forgotten about, but let’s not just ignore the bad choices you made as well. Try and hold yourself to higher standards in the future and make better choices. Have more respect for yourself and for others as well. You may not know his wife, but she exists and has real feelings and is a real person. You seem to not even care that you are having conversations with a married man, saying things like “i miss you too”.

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

Aaannddd he gets cut. Know. You can do better.

Post # 101
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1464 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Confuscious10:  Yeah this guy is out of control. No more tecxting him. It’s for your own good, in your own interest. You have the power- the power to ignore him! You deserve a guy who is going to treat you right. I don’t think I’d be able to forgive someone who lied about getting engaged and won’t actually talk about things and face the facts. He’s a loser. 

Post # 105
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Wow..  I’m not really sure where to begin with this one?  Instead of pointing out line by line all the things you both are doing wrong to each other, I’ll simply say CUT TIES and MOVE ON.  This whole situation is freaking strange.  Also, how can you even envision a future with him if you know he’s a liar and a cheater?  If I were you I would never ever trust him or feel secure in a relationship.  As for yourself, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and do NOT contact him anymore.

Post # 106
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@Confuscious10:  I would refrain from calling this other girl a “whore”. You have no idea what kind of lies he was telling her as well. Even if she is the one he cheated on you with, he’s the whore, not her. Keep your anger directed at him, that’s where it belongs.

It’s good that you went to church, if that’s what helps you to stay strong and heal. It’s also a very good thing to see you say that you need to love yourself more. You should always come first. Good luck!

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