Post # 1
As some of you already know, last November I got a “final” timeline out of my man (he’s had two previously). He said it would happen BEFORE April 2012, and that it was “definite” because he “had made plans”.
So I’m very hopeful and excited! I will hopefully be engaged within the next few weeks.
Post # 3
That sounds awesome! But what if he doesn’t come through again? Will you wait or will you walk?
Post # 4
2 failed deadlines is not a good sign, i hope for your sake he comes through this time. good luck.
Post # 5
Yeah. You are very strong in that you have hope that this one is real this time! I woudn’t be able to believe any timeline until he made it happen! I hope he has changed and won’t do that to your heart again!
Post # 6
Fingers crossed for you. I’d hate for you to be disappointed again. BUT it sounds very very promising. Keep us posted 🙂
Post # 7
He didn’t see the first or the second timeline as an exact “timelines” because he made them himself (what is it with men and their version of “time”?).
He told me himself that the first timeline was for April 2011, and he even bought a ring. I was surprised by this because he brought it up and set the timeline. We had discussed marriage, but never a “when”. April 2011 came with no proposal. I told him in May 2011 that I was very disappointed and hurt that he didn’t do it. He told me he wished he’d never told me April 2011 because then I was expecting it and he wanted a “surprise”. I told him that I would like to be engaged within 6 months and that I would leave it up to him, he agreed.
6 months later in November 2011 I asked him why it hadn’t happened. He said because I was still “expecting it”. I told him of course I was, he had bought a ring AND told me about it, how could I not be expecting it? He said that it was really important that it be a surprise. We got into an arguement and I was prepared to walk that very day and I let him know that. He begged me to stay and then finally admitted that he had made definite plans (not just in his head), and that the reason it didn’t happen by November was that by his logic (only he can see it) he thought if he told me November and didn’t do it then I would be REALLY surprised when he really did do it. I told him the time for surprises is long gone and that he had to give me a date by which I either had a ring or I was out. He said that I will be engaged by April 2012.
I honestly believe him because for the last few weeks he has been really lovey and keeps mentioning our wedding and trying for kids “next year”. I just respond with a cool “you have to ask me first” to which he keeps saying cryptic things about “soon” and that I just don’t know what’s happening. I always respond with comments about “the status quo” and that I don’t believe he wants anything to change soon, to which he always gets all I’ve-got-a-secret smiley. I only say this because I know he wants a surprise and that it’s important to him, so I just play along with the “surprise” because I know it makes him happy.
I’m happy to play oblivious and nonchalant, it gives him his “surprise” and me my man and his commitment.
He’s got no clue I have a countdown timer on my phone though, and that I can barely contain my excitement!
Post # 8
Good luck! I hope he pulls through this time!
Post # 9
Good luck! Keep us updated 🙂
Post # 10
What is it with guys and “soon”. My Boyfriend or Best Friend has been saying “soon” for quite some time. And when I ask how soon is soon he says something along the lines of in the timeline of our lives, soon could be within any amount of time. BUT, it really is going to be “soon” now because we went to the jewelry store Friday, and he put money down on a ring. I believe it’ll be next month, but I’m not holding my breath. By this summer, for sure. I hope April comes with a proposal for you, I really do. It’s awful having to wait so long to start your life with the person you want to be with forever. Once you find them, you want it to happen right away [or at least I do]. Good luck!
Post # 11
Congrats! Be excited! Eek!! 🙂
Post # 12
@beccybaby: Aw this is so cute! Good luck!
P.s I would totally have a countdown on my phone also!
Post # 13
Oh fingers crossed for you – I love the countdown on your phone, what a great idea!