Post # 1
Me and my guy have begun making plans to wed. Just picked out rings, about to close on a house, created a budget and throwing around dates. I am so ready to build a life with him, but this wedding stuff is for the birds. I am not one of those girls who begun planning her wedding as a child. I do not like to be the center of attention and I believe vowing those vows should be intimate and private. I do not want to do them in front of 200 people. I have been trying to plan a small ceremony and reception, so at the very least, our families can meet. But the more I plan, the less I want this. I am beginning to feel like an anti-bride. We have discussed elopement, but he is not too thrilled about it. I don’t want him to sacrifice his ideal wedding so that I can get mine. Nor do I want the next 8 months to be miserable.
Please share your thoughts: Is my feelings temporary? Will they fade as we delve more into the planning process?
Post # 3
@MikLips: Had the same feeling after we got engaged…after a month of that sinking feeling we talked with my folks about it, we agreed to do a very small ceremony, 25 guests if you count the photographers, and a BIG honeymoon! That summer we had a BBQ for the families to meet up and it worked out great!
After we made that decision, I felt a lot better…talk to your guy about it, a tiny wedding can be a lot of fun!
Post # 4
I wasn’t the girl who had her wedding planned from a young age either. When we started planning 7 months ago, we were really tempted to just jet of and have a nice, very small destination wedding. We chose not to for our families and the fact that we both want everyone to be able to come if they want. In the beginning, everything was a headache. Talking to vendors, negotiating prices, signing contract…you have to have colors and a theme?…ugh…not fun. But we realized that our wedding is a reflection of us and who we are as a couple. We don’t have to take everyone’s ‘advice’ and do things this way or that. And, as we get closer to the date, I find myself getting really excited about it; it especially helps that all my friends and fam are also pumped! It still hasn’t really set in that I’m going to have a wedding in just a few short months! I hope (fingers crossed) that things just get better from here. If anything, at the end of the day, at least I have my best friend with me always 🙂
Don’t give up and get stressed. And never forget that no matter how the actual wedding is, or isn’t, you still have your man…that’s more than enough to celebrate for!
Post # 5
I just started thinking about a wedding when I got engaged. To be honest, the only thing I ever put any thought into was eating cake, but I never thought I’d ever be getting married. You should be more excited about the marriage than the wedding. The wedding is 1 day, the marriage is the rest of your lives. Just have fun with it. If you want a small wedding, do that. If you just want a casual party, have your party the way you want it. It’s your day, it can be as big or as small as you want it to be.