(Closed) Excited and Overwhelmed

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) my dad went through cancer earlier last year and i hear he is still rail thin 🙁 makes me think he is sick again because he isn’t gaining weight back so yes i definitely understand i defintiely think that it’s an awesome thing you did by moving the date up and i think maybe y’all should have a spa day before the wedding just the two of you.

Post # 5
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@leelee…I can sympathize with you…when my Fiance was going through cancer treatment, I had to be the strong one. He and his family both counted on me to be there for him b/c at times, I was the only one who he would let see him or do things for him…and I was definitely the only one he felt like he could be completely honest about what he was going through with. I would suggest you go ahead and have that good cry with your Future Mother-In-Law…you may find that it makes BOTH of you feel better. My Fiance and I talked about one time during his treatment where we both cried ourselves to sleep…and how it was some of the best sleep either of us had in quite some time. Just remember that you are not in it alone and maybe your Future Mother-In-Law is trying to keep a brave face for you guys and could probably use a good cry herself.

Post # 6
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hugs to you – sometimes I find it does help to “let it all out” … so when you are home alone, pour yourself a bath, open a bottle of wine, and just cry … let it all out, safely locked in your house when you are alone … Then you won’t have to worry as much about “cracking” when there are people around to witness it. Sometimes  good cry can be really cleansing!

Post # 8
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think she sould really treasure spending some time with you. I work as an oncology nurse and can’t tell you how important family support is and the wedding gives her something to look forward to, which is important too. I can’t tell you how many patients metally keep themselves going to be able to enjoy those special days. Your Future Mother-In-Law is lucky to have you in her life and to support her son through these difficult times.

Post # 9
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928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

*hugs* omg I can’t even imagine, I am so sorry and my heart just goes out to you and your FI! What a bittersweet situation, to have her be with you on your wedding day but to know that she’s so sick. Just cherish each and every single moment with her. Your Fiance is so lucky to have you by his side and what a wonderful thing for yall to do by moving the wedding up. I agree, you need to have a special day just the 2 of you and get all your feelings out and do something special together. I hate that you’re going through all this right before your wedding but everything youre feeling is just fine and natural. Unfortunately, you’re called on to be as strong as you can be right now for your Fiance but that doesn’t mean that you can’t breakdown, too. Let him know how you’re feeling.

I know this probably pales in comparison but I’m dealing with my Fiance being deployed missing him and worrying every single day about his safety. When I talk to him, I have to be strong for him because that’s what he needs right now, he needs my support and encouragement. It gets very overwhelming at times and I hate it so much but I don’t have a choice but to keep going. I’ve learned that you have to give yourself an opportunity to feel and let it all out, face what you’re going through or you will crack.

Again, I know that doesn’t even being to compare but that point I was trying to make was that I know how it feels to want to give up and breakdown and stop being strong and you’re overwhelmed but you have to keep moving forward. Give yourself time to feel and face it and make sure you talk to your Fiance, confide in him your feelings. He needs you to be strong but you need him, too. I hope this time before your wedding goes smoothly and I hope that whatever you do with your Future Mother-In-Law, that’s it’s special.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@leelee: You are so very welcome! And I meant to tell you that even though you’re struggling, I want you to know that you are doing such a good job and you are being amazing through it all. Your Fiance is a very lucky man to have such a loving and caring woman by his siden and I’m sure he feels so blessed to have you, especially now. You are going to make it through this and you are going to be just fine. Just hang in there and keep moving forward, I know it probably means everything to your Fiance and his family. Remember, you are allowed to feel the way you’re feeling, you’re allowed to be sad and upset and still be strong for your Fiance. It’s going to be ok. And thank YOU for your kind words about me and my Fiance. I will tell him you said thank you and I appreciate the support. It’s bittersweet because even though I hate that he’s gone, I’m so proud of him! *hugs*!

Post # 12
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

(((Hugs))) Honey, sometimes a rock needs another rock!!! I know its wayyyy more right now then you asked for. Just remember to take sometime for yourself. Sometime to either go for a drive and sing and scream to all the sappy, songs that just make you feel good about feeling so terrible. Then listen to a fun song that always inspires you. Just think about it this way..once the wedding is over, and your husbands mom sadly passes and its just you two in a happy married life, you will look back on this time and be amazed by your strength. This will make you all the stronger and wiser and your soon to be hubby will forever thank you for what you have done to help him. Hope you feel better! Good luck and best wishes!

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