Post # 1
I need to get this off my chest…
My SO and I went e-ring shopping together and I picked out a couple of settings I like at the place he’s going to buy from. One of the styles had some custom changes to it. We agreed that he would make the final decision on setting, as well as picking out the stone for it, himself. So I still get to be surprised and he still gets to make the final decision on style and how much he wants to spend.
So now it’s a bit over 3 months later and I know he’s picked out the ring and he likely has it already. So I’m excited and I think a proposal is coming soon.
But I’m also nervous!
I haven’t seen the settings I liked since our visit to the store and I really hope I still love the one he ended up choosing! I can’t picture exactly what they looked like anymore…
My tastes haven’t really changed since our visit to the jewellery store, but I still can’t stop thinking about whether I’m still going to like the ring, since it’s been so long without me seeing the store samples…
Am I being crazy?!
I’m hoping I’ll like the one he got even more by the time I see it again, since he picked it out for me with love.
But what if…
Did any of you Bees who got input into your e-rings change your tastes before you actually got the ring?
PS: I do realize that it’s the sentiment and love behind a proposal that counts more than any ring. I’m really trying not to be materialistic here, and at the end of the day I’m going so be so happy no matter what because we’ll finally be oficially engaged, but I still can’t stop thinking about it. I’m a perfectionist and I tend to fixate on things – It’s just my nature.
I should probably stop stalking the ring board while I’m waiting but that’s not going to happen lol.
PPS: This turned out way longer than I expected. Gold stars for anyone who read through this whole post!
Post # 3
I really should not share this with you since you are nervous about not liking your ring- but YES my taste did change between picking out the ring and Fiance finally giving it to me.
We picked out a ring together 10 months before we actually got engaged. I loved the ring and still do, but the timing just was not right when he bought it. His parents did not support us getting engaged at that time and there were arugments- so we waited.
Once the timing was right, Fiance proposed and gave me the beautiful ring which I love and wear everyday- but it was what he could afford 10 months before, and it is not traditional and now I want something traditional. If we would have not bought this ring I know I would have had something different.
No matter what though, I love the ring I have and I love what it symbolizes. I get so many compliments on it. I am sure you will love your ring once you get it. My advice is to just be HAPPY
Post # 4
@amandasf: Thanks – I appreciate you telling the truth! I’m glad you still like your ring even though it’s not nessesarily what you would have picked out by the time you actually got engaged .
Luckily my taste is already pretty traditional, so I don’t think I’ll have any regrets in that sense.
I think I’m mainly nervous becauseI just can’t remember exactly what the small details looked like.
Post # 5
I know exactly what you’re feeling. I’m waiting too, and I chose a design 6 months ago. I see it online sometimes and don’t know if I will still like it, just cause I haven’t seen it in person so long. But I just try to remember my reaction to it in person. I loved it immediately when it was on my finger, and I liked it more than all of the other designs I thought I would have liked better. I know my bf will change the design in little ways to put his style in it too since it’s going to be custom, but it’ll still be a ring that symbolizes our commitment and love.
He gave me a piece of jewelery a few years ago that was also custom. It’s not my style exactly, but because he worked so hard on it I love it so much more. I think it’ll be ok, just remember how much you loved it initially and trust your gut 🙂 Happy waiting!
Post # 6
@Quackadoo: Glad to know I’m not the only one! Remember to come back and post pics when you get your beauty
Post # 7
@pixiefatale: I felt just like that FI and I went ring shopping in February, and we only went to one store – literally the last ring I tried on I decided I wanted. I didn’t think about it at all – I just new it was THE RING.
And then, months later, I was thinking “oh man, what if I didn’t debate enough? What if there are some more rings out there that I’m missing out on? What if I don’t like it as much as I think I do?”
And as soon as he proposed (four months later), all those thoughts flew out of my head – I still love my ring just as much, and you will too.
Post # 8
Oh god, I totally relate. We were going to skip an engagement ring all together, but my dude wanted to get me one. We looked at a lot online, talked about it, found an ethical jeweler in London (that happens to be located right near his work-score!), and he has been working with them to design it. I know that the design is complete and I think he’s just waiting for it to be ready. The other day, I mentioned that it looked like another friend’s who recently got engaged except a sapphire instead of a diamond, and he said “the setting is different than that.” So now I have no idea what the ring looks like. I know it will be a sapphire + diamonds on the band, which I guess doesn’t leave THAT much room for error. But I keep worrying that he’ll give it to me and I’ll make some horrible and rude face and ruin the moment!! We’llll see.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies for your stories! I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one. I thought for sure I was the only one feeling this way and it’s very reassuring to hear others have been through or are going through similar feelings.
Post # 10
Well for one thing, at least you went ring shopping lol
The Boyfriend or Best Friend and I aren’t quite there yet. But I’ve been browsing online and the rings I liked 3 weeks ago are not the rings I like now lol (I have them saved in a folder so I could keep coming back to them and procrastinating on work lol)
I think it’s easier once you’ve tried them on in the store. I’m not a big jewelry person, so it’s hard for me to say what kind of ring I’ll be able to tolerate on me for more than a few hours lol So maybe I have to be pickier than others since I’m not used to wearing rings. But once I try a few on I think I’ll at least have an idea of what kind of settings are comfortable. For me, it’s always about comfort.
Regrdless of the ring he gets you, if it’s not too tight or scratches you up/leaves you a rash I’m sure you’ll love it. Plus, even if you got a ring that you liked then, as soon as you get it you’ll remember how much you loved it. Our tastes are constantly changing. Who knows how you’ll feel 20 years from now? But you’ll always remember how you felt when he gave it to you.
Post # 11
@Kat_Kit2000: You’re right about tastes changing, which is why I went pretty classic. You can’t mess with a classic! Also I found the rings I liked trying on were different from what I thought I would like based on photos – but after trying on a whole bunch I did gravitate towards one main style. Have fun ring shopping when it happens!
Post # 12
My Fiance and I have walked through a ring store once in our relationship. He ended up buying the stones for my ring and the setting separate. The final ring was more perfect than I had ever hoped and dreamed. Looking back, I’m glad he bought the ring of his choice, I think it made it even more special to me. 🙂 Hope this helps! No matter what your final ring looks like, it will be perfect because he made it and bought it for YOU! 🙂
Post # 13
@pixiefatale: Your not alone!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am waiting too!!!! It bites!!! lol
Post # 14
He took me ring shopping a month ago, and I picked three different settings that I liked, and since then I have been wondering if there would be other shopping trips, if I would still like the one that kept “jumping” back onto my finger – if he has bought it, I am almost 100% certain it is going to be that one, I tried on so many rings that night but I kept going back to one in particular over and over.
If he has or is going to buy that one, I will love it, but I also have looked at other rings and wondered if I would like something else better. Adding to this is the fact that two of my friends have gotten engaged in the past month and both have gorgeous rings – both custom, and both with colored stones that are absolutely gorgeous. Of course now I want one just like theirs, but I had already told SO I like the classic diamonds. I did bring this up to him (he’s seen both their rings) and he said something akin to “if all your friends got colored stones, does that mean you have to also?” which of course has me overthinking that he HAS bought the ring!
Achk, all of this waiting/overthinking…lol It can be fun yet exhausting at times, am I right? 😉
Post # 15
@mrs_pudding_pop: YES, I was so anxious crawling out of my skin, like let me wear it already if you have it, I love you!
Post # 16
Well he proposed and I LOVE the ring! I’m so happy with his choice and it’s more beautiful than I imagined!
It’s not exactly like any of the rings we looked at – my SO (fiance!) took the elements of the rings I liked and encorporated the best of each into a custom ring (with the prongs from one and shank from another).
He has great taste
Good luck to the bees who are still in suspense. I’m sure your SO will choose something spectacular