Post # 1
I am ECSTATIC for my good friend, who just called to let me know that her and her husband are expecting!!!
Unfortunately, she’s states away, and the baby is due within a month of my wedding. With costs + travel (and possible blizzards, etc) + prior history, it’s best if she stays around home. So she had to call today and let me know she won’t be able to attend our wedding. I am so bummed, because she’s such a sweet gal and a great friend, but I totally and completely understand. Plus, how can you not be excited for a friend with such great news?!
Mr.ND was pretty casual about it when I told him the news, but I don’t think that guys love their GMs like brides get excited to spend the day with her best girls. I’m not sure if I’ll find a person to take her place, or just leave it mis-matched with 5 and 6 and keep her listed on the program with a little note about how she’s unable to join us but we’re so excited for them. I’d feel bad putting a new person in her place. We’ve been engaged over a year, so asking someone now may be a bit awkward/rude. Plus, we’re only 6 months out, so they’d have to get a dress ordered ASAP.
Have any of you bees had a similar situation? Either as the bride or the Bridesmaid or Best Man. Any words of wisdom or similar stories would be great. I’m just bumming that I’ll miss my good friend on our big day. Thanks for letting me share since the Mr. doesn’t quite get why I’m so bummed.
Post # 3
Set up a google+ account for both of you or skype, then she can still be there without being there. We did this for a shower once – we all sent the gifts in the mail and the host sent us all envelopes with the game cards in them and we all got to participate. She would be able to at least see you get married!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - ceremony in our family's Catholic church in Watsonville; reception at the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk
@indibee: Awwww, bittersweet for sure! Congrats to your friend 🙂 I’d be bummed too. This happened with my brother, though a bit of a different situation. I think you can go either way with the bridal party…. * HUGS *
Post # 5
I agree that it would seem awkward/rude to add someone else at this point – I think leaving her in the program with a little note sounds like a very sweet and perfect idea. Make sure you send her a copy =)
Post # 6
@tksjewelry: What a fun idea! I’ll have to see if we can set something up so she can watch it in real-time (as long as she’s not in full on baby delivery mode!). Haha.
@teacup: Thanks, dear. I’m totally bumming because I see her about 2xs a year since she moved away, so I was all excited for all the girl time. I’m excited for baby holding, though!
@Wonderstruck: Sounds like my plan. I don’t want to add an extra friend so late in the game.
Mr.ND has been looking for one more usher, but I don’t want him to demote a Groomsmen, either. I think we’ll just have uneven numbers. I would have one of my brothers walk me down the aisle, but there are 2 of them and I couldn’t choose, so that’d leave a girl alone then. My symmetrically-focused self is going to have to just breathe it out. 🙂
Post # 7
I’d say just go with the uneven numbers. My fiance and I have had 5 girls and 6 guys from the start and honestly, it hasn’t created any real issues.
Post # 8
@indibee: Awwww, thats tough but im sure your friend is bummed as well.
Post # 9
Try and set up SKYPE or TANGO so she can watch from her couch– I did that for my brother who is in hospice- and he really felt part of the wedding- even though he could not be with us.