Post # 1
So I just thought I’d share my story here and maybe see if anyone else feels the same.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. I have been getting pretty anxious about wanting to get engaged late. About 2 years ago he asked me what ring I wanted and I showed him some styles I liked. He told me he wanted to use the center diamond from his grandmother’s ring and I agreed to that. Needless to say, during this time, I have asked him about when he was going to ask me and would get upset sometimes (I know, I should have just been patient but ladies who have waited a long time know what it’s like!).
So after one night of asking him about it and pouting (ugh), he ends up emailing me a picture of the ring saying “This will put your mind at ease I hope, but I’m not giving it to you yet”. That was kind of disappointing in itself because although the ring was absolutely beautiful, it would no longer be a surprise. BF is notoriously bad at keeping surprises.
Today he finally proposed. He has never been a man of many words, but I was hoping at least for the proposal he would say something sweet. We just bought a house and spent our first night together in it last night. This morning we woke up and talked and lounged around in bed for a while. He got up and went to “go get ready” and I laid in bed a while longer. Then he came back upstairs and got down on one knee next to the bed, opened the ring box and said “Will you marry me?” That is all he said! Then I said “aren’t you going to give any kind of speech?” and he goes “I love you, you are perfect and I want to spend my life with you. So will you marry me?”.
I love him and love the ring, but I guess I just wanted more fireworks. If the ring had been a surprise, I would have been blown away by it. But I already knew what it looked like. And I was really hoping he’d say something profound and meaningful, and instead he just did the basic “will you marry me”. And it was cute that he asked me after our first night together in our new house, but he didnt really do anything sweet, like make me breakfast or do anything out of the ordinary.
Anyway, like I said, overall I am happy and excited, but I just feel like the proposal was boring. Anyone else relate at all?
Post # 3
LOL, my damn fiance did the same thing. Got on one knee underwater so I couldn’t even understand him and said “will you marry me”
It was so odd *rolleyes*
when my diamond ring arrived we went to dinner and I was hoping he’d propose that night, but all I got was “Lauren, will you marry me…again?”
I understand the dissapointment of a less than romantic proposal, but oh well 🙂
Post # 4
Some guys just don’t have a way with words. My husband didn’t say a lot when we got engaged either. I think that we see all these movies where the proposal is all fireworks and a Shakespearean speech and that really isn’t reality for most people.
Congrats on your engagement!
Post # 5
Well, it could be worse. I’ve been engaged before, and my ex told me he had a present for me. Then, while he was sitting in the passenger seat of my car, he handed me the ring. Not even a “will you marry me?”
I completely understand being underwhelmed by a proposal.
Post # 6
I was totally underwhelmed by his proposal. He hid the ring on our christmas tree for me to find, and didn’t even officially ask or put it on me. I was so disspointed that he proposed the one time of year that my friends and family weren’t here to celebrate with us. But we got married two years later! We’ve been married almost 4 months now, and he has learned how to be much more romantic.
Post # 7
Congrats on the engagement and the house!
I think it still sounds very sweet 🙂 What a great way to start your engagement – the first day in your brand new house.
At least you didn’t blow the proposal, like I did. When my fiance got down on one knee, I thought he was just getting down to eye level with me, so I just hugged him. Doh!
Post # 8
Sometimes they have a romantic speech planned out but when it comes time the words leave them. 5 years and it’s finally time to marry the man!
Post # 9
My dad never even proposed to my mom. They were talking one day and my mom just said “lets get married”. He agreed so they went out, bought a ring, and a month later they were married! She still jokes about how he never asked her. Technically Mr. Shef neer asked me to marry him. He asked if I would be his angel (his nic-name for me) forever. I raz him about it sometimes but in all honesty, I can’t remember a single word he said before he got down on one knee. Sometimes it is just the emotion behind how they ask you that matters most.
Post # 10
Mine was a little underwhelming too. He was super nervous and all he could get out was “I love you more than anything, will you marry me?”
Very anticlimactic… but I get to marry that man of my dreams and that is whats most important 😀
Post # 11
My FH didn’t go to any great length or give any fancy speaches, heck, I was shocked that he even proposed. I see all the great stories and kind of think I missed out, but he makes up for it in how he treats me every day and the great lengths he is going through to make the wedding perfect.
Post # 12
My poor FI- I didn’t give him a chance to say anything! I was completely surprised and just started saying yes once I realized what was going on!
My best friend’s husband didn’t get to plan a proposal, really. She kept bugging him about it and kind of “declared” that they were getting married before he had a chance. He was pretty bummed about it.
Sorry the proposal didn’t blow you away. He can always make up for it by doing something surprisingly romantic at the wedding (hint, hint, boy!)…
Post # 13
I don’t even remember what Fiance said, but it was brief. I was just in shock that he was finally proposing. He got down on his knees (yes, both of them) while I was sititng on the couch and prefaced the proposal with “There’s something I want to ask you…” and I just thought he was being silly. It wasn’t the most romantic proposal in the world, but it was sweet and genuine and he had apparently just gotten the ring that day and couldn’t wait any longer to ask. It was very low key and that’s what I wanted.
Anyway, you’re marrying the man you love! Congrats! 🙂
Post # 14
I didn’t get a speech or anything either. I just got the ‘will you marry me?’ I didn’t think it was boring or lacking though since I wasn’t really expecting anything or am that type of person that imagined some big proposal and the whole works. Honestly, I think we all dream it up to be fireworks and all and makes guys feel like they have to live up to this dream when in reality in most cases these days, women pick their own rings, or know the ring is in the house or in your case, knows what it looks like and the ‘proposal’ is really just a little formality. You’re engaged, thats all that matters! Congrats!
Post # 15
My ex-husband proposed to me on the phone, while I was at work.
When I proposed to my wife, I said something really articulate like, “So, what would you think of the idea of getting married?”
When my son was ready to propose, he was heading home to see his now fiancée, but unexpectedly ran into her out on the street. He therefore began his proposal, “While I have you here…”
Honestly, some people are just more inclined toward romantic gestures than others. If your Fiance is not so inclined, he is probably not going to start once you are married, either. However, that doesn’t mean he’ll be a bad husband. Intelligence, loyalty, sense of humor, and a whole lot of other characteristics are much more important to a marriage than an ability to engage in romantic gestures. You just have to decide for yourself whether he has enough of the qualities you want to be a good husband to you.
Post # 16
Aww, sorry you’re not exactly thrilled. My Fiance actually tried to do the thing Jim did to Pam on the office where he fake proposes, but the goober had flowers and the ring in his hand.
My dad proposed to my mom in the parking lot at a Dairy Queen on his lunch break, though, so Fiance didn’t have a lot to compete with :).
Just enjoy being engaged. The proposal isn’t going to be the most important part, I promise!