(Closed) Excited to be engaged but underwhelmed by the proposal…

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 32
45 posts
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yeah. Your story is a lot better than mine. He proposed while we were eating dinner in my kitchen. Not even on one knee. “Oh we should get engaged.” “… is that a proposal?” “…yes?”

When the ring came, I told him I was expecting a one knee proposal. So he waited until I went to the bathroom and kneeled in front of door as I was drying my hands. “Will you marry me? … and this counts, right?”

Post # 33
6891 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am sorry but to me that is actually sweet.  He got down on one knee right?  And asked you the correct question. I guess I am confused as to why you think that wasn’t enough?

He loves you and wants to spend the rest of your life together, isn’t that enough?


Post # 34
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I laughed out loud when I read “aren’t you going to give any kind of speech?” like it’s an awards show.

Honestly, be happy he got down on one knee and asked formally. I didn’t even get a ring or a proposal, we more or less just talked it over at dinner and agreed we were headed for marriage.

It sounds like you have a great relationship, and it’s real, not a fairy tale. He gave you a nice proposal and a gorgeous ring. Enjoy it, be happy and throw your expectations out the window because marriage isn’t always a fairy tale either.

Post # 35
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My guy is a man of few words too…but honestly, it’s so much better to have the substance rather than the romance.

Don’t get me wrong, I love romantic gestures, but down the road isn’t the most romantic thing in the world to have a man devoted to you all through the years?

Post # 36
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh geez. This reminds me so much of my own proposal. At least you didn’t know the day, there had been so much build up (I knew he had the ring etc) and I was able to pretty easily assume what day too. Then just as anticipated he got down on one knee, simply said “will you marry me” and then that was it.

In truth it was lackluster but when I leave out the details and say I was engaged in Napa Valley on a wine tasting tour it sounds more fun.

He can’t even write nice things in cards. Oh well. The main thing is that I know he does love me and the wedding was great! Your ring is gorgeous! Enjoy planning.

Post # 37
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think your engagement story is super cute and so amazing -I would have loved something like that (he proposed a month after we got our first house…ha!)

Your ring is beautiful! Congrats!!

Post # 38
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Aww, I’m sorry to LOL. It’s a cute story though. Some guys are just more to the point.

My husband proposed similarly, although he did trick me into walking down the the beach. When we got there, he got down on one knee and asked if I would like to be his wife.

He didn’t even have a ring!

Post # 39
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I like your story! I think its simple and sweet and I dont think that a proposal needs to have the fireworkseffect. The fact that he loves you and told you he wanted to spend the rest of your life with you ..thats whats important. 

Post # 40
10846 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@gr8tlexi: What a gorgeous ring!!! I love it!

Post # 41
4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I understand how you feel. My FH isn’t good with emotion or romance. I’m not either really, but when it comes to something like that, I can understand that you might expect a bit more.

My FH and I had only been together about 2 years when he proposed. I wasn’t expecting it then, but we had been talking about it, we’d browsed pictures of rings on the internet and were sure that it’s what we wanted. When the proposal came, I was shocked. I was in my pj’s, just gotten over the flu and was laying on the couch. He came over, sat down and said, “So um, will you marry me?”

I said yes and I waited for him to hand me my ring. You know, that’s how I’d pictured it in my mind. But he didn’t have one. I still don’t have one.

Looking back on it, it’s funny now. While it may not have been the most romantic or “perfect” proposal with candles and a ring, I was excited to take that next step. Not every proposal gives you that whole “fireworks” feeling…

Post # 42
2904 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know the feeling.


But, you’re engaged! CONGRATS!

Post # 43
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

When my husband proposed to me he was so nervous that he was lucky to get out the words “will you marry me”! I think it’s sweet that he did it after the first night in your new house. Congrats!

Post # 44
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My Fiance and I have the worst proposal storey EVER!  I also was a little anxious only because he said he woudl ask within 3 months of us living together (which I thought was annoying because then when 3 months passed, I got anxious).  He had had all these other great opportunities (we had done a nice dinner, gone hiking etc), which he didn’t use for the proposal.  Instead, we were in a fight, and I was talking about looking for work outside of the area (i.e. I woudl ahev to move), he was really upset and as the argument escalated he opened up his wallet and handed me a receipt (the receipt ot my ring).  I said I didn’t want it (b/c before I opened it I knew what it was), but he said it was too late, and then said I love you, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, you make me really happy, will you marry me? 

SO I totally feel your pain… I hear all of these AMAZING proposal stories, I’m just not one of them who has one.  Oh well 🙁

Post # 45
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@gr8tlexi: I know how you feel.  My Fiance made it special but it’s not what I would have chosen.  I was dissapointed for a while but honestly, you have to let it go and accept it.  He chose to do it his way and that’s his choice.  You get to plan the wedding now and do it YOUR way.  Just move on.  Sorry, I know it doesn’t help a lot but at least you aren’t alone.  🙂

Post # 46
2904 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Can I just say, it feels really good to see that a whole lot of our guys did this? I thought I was the only one!


And now it’ll be easier when people say how did he ask, it’ll be easy to just say, “oh, he just did” and not have any questions.


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