- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2007
Ok..? So here goes an attempt at the short version of a long and complicated story. I’m looking for advice on how to react or address the situation with my family.
I was accepted into the family when my mother began seeing my step-father (they were together for 5 years before marrying, and eloped before my wedding since I had asked my step-father to give me away). I was welcomed with open arms, and was included in family events and have coordinated some as well over the past ten years! I am the only of six “children” living locally.
A cousin was recently married over the summer, and I was not invited (nor were my five siblings or their families), but my mom and step-dad were, as was the rest of our local family. It was a small event, so I completely understand the need to trim guest-lists, and compared to the life-long family, I was a new-comer. I also understand the politics of feeling forced to invite all of the children (some of whom this cousin had only met a few times) if inviting one. I was okay with not being invited.
That was until this wedding became the center of the family’s universe! Leading up to the event, and for the months since then, it’s been the center of conversation. We’ve been at family get togethers (that this cousin has not attended) and sttho her wedding was the main topic of conversation.
I’ve tried politely changing the subject to other things, but the conversation still somehow returns to this wedding – the wedding I wasn’t invited to. I’ve discussed it with my mother in private as well, but we are at a loss.
I’m trying to have as thick a skin as possible, but it hurts that the family doesn’t seem to realize I was even excluded. I can only handle making so many polite comments about how nice it must have been or wish I had been there before I go crazy!
Pod you think that the talk of the wedding will slow with time? How do I bide my time til then?