Post # 1
I am due August 14th 2012 with a boy, and we are very excited 🙂 I would really like to give my baby breastmilk because of the overwhelming health benefits etc. However, for personal reasons I intend on exclusivly pumping, like from day one. When I tell people this they tend to look at me kind of sideways like they have never heard of such a thing, and some people even tell me if I am only going to pump them I shouldn’t even bother to breastfeed. Am I crazy? Has anyone ever done this before, or know someone who has known this before? I am especially anxious about how things are going to go down in the hospital, I have yet to talk to anyone who hasn’t at least tried to bring baby to breast. I’m worried the nurses are going to look at me just as crazy as my friends have :/
Post # 3
i’m not sure your reasons for not wants to Boyfriend or Best Friend but the people who say not to even bother don’t know anything! Breast milk is what is important. The baby going to breast the 1st couple weeks really helps establish your milk supply but if you are very consistant pumping every 2-3 hours you should be fine. The problem that will arise will be that you baby is going to wake up screaming and hungry and it takes time setting up your pump and pumping milk to give. Evenutally you will be able to get milk stored up though. But it could be really hard in the beginning because your only going to have colostrum for the first few days before your milk supply comes in which is ok and totally normal except giving a few drops of colostrum to a baby from a bottle is a lot less satisfying than a baby going to moms breast and soothing that way and falling asleep. Supplementing with formula during that time will help until your supply comes in but I wouldn’t over do the formula. Give smaller amounts so your milk supply can catch up. Also, to really help release the good hormones and help with your milk supply I would at the very least do skin to skin with the baby. Even if you dont want to breast feed holding your baby bare skin to bare skin is great for bonding and helping your milk supply. I think breast feeding is a wonderful thing and I would suggst talking to a lactation specialist at the hospital about your reasons and maybe they can talk through some things that may change your mind. But if your mind is made up, still pump. Way better than formula!
*also, as a nurse who works with breast feeding.. don’t take it personal if you get a few stares. There aren’t too many moms like you, most want to Boyfriend or Best Friend or others don’t want to deal at all with that and just give formula. I think that you are wiling to put the work in to pump so your baby gets Bridesmaid or Best Man is whats important. But make the staff aware of your plan.. Most hospitals, especially baby friend hospitals encourage skin to skin with the baby and mom for the 1st hr of life to get the baby breast feeding so have them know your plan so you don’t have to deal with the questions and all that right after you push the little one out. Still do skin to skin but pump right after.
Post # 4
I agree with mrs.stormylove. Getting breastmilk to your baby is more important than how you do it.
I Boyfriend or Best Friend my son for a little over a year, and never thought twice about whether it was weird or not. But now that my sister is Boyfriend or Best Friend her daughter, it was actually a little weird to think about. If you decide that Boyfriend or Best Friend directly isn’t for you and still give baby Bridesmaid or Best Man, all the power to you. I would suggest trying to see a lactation specialist (either in your Ped’s practice or the hospital), bc pumping is SUPER weird, and it might make you even more uncomfortable than directly Boyfriend or Best Friend.
Post # 5
I pumped for about a month before quitting. It is very hard, very stressful and not fun at all. It’s hard to keep your supply up, it’s hard to take that time away from everything to sit and pump every 2 hours at the beginning, it’s hard to deal with juggling a screaming child and a breastpump. It’s hard, hard work and I wish the best of luck to you. Honestly, expect the nurses to look at you like you are crazy.
IF you do end up on formula if you decide the pumping thing isn’t for you, don’t let people guilt you about it. There is absolutely 100% nothing wrong with having a formula fed baby.
@mrs.stormylove: Way better than formula
Excuse me but there is nothing wrong with formula. It is a perfectly viable option and the research on the benefits of breast over bottle is negligible at best (not saying there aren’t benefits, just saying that the amount is negligible). Formula fed babies grow up just as healthy and intelligent as breastfed ones. Comments like these are very shaming to women who chose to or were forced to do formula.
Post # 6
First off, I highly doubt the nurses will look at you funny when you explain this to them. They have seen some crazy stuff, and they will not even blink an eye at this. Plus, don’t worry about what they think. You are trying to do the best for your child that you can do, and that’s something to be proud of.
I can imagine that taking the time out to pump and keeping your supply up would be more difficult, but not impossible. Just make sure to buy or rent a really high quality pump; it will make it much easier.
Post # 7
@Follydust321: Just make sure to buy or rent a really high quality pump; it will make it much easier.
YES! I rented a Medela Symphony from my hospital when I was doing it. Also, make sure you get a hands-free pumping bra.
Post # 8
And a double pump!!! I thought it was dumb to spend extra money just to save 15ish minutes, but I regretted that decision later. Esp if you plan on exclusively pumping, having a double pump will probably save you hours a day.
Post # 9
I have purchased a good double pump
Post # 10
@anywhos09: Regardless of your reasons why, the fact that you even want to try BFing (in any way shape or form) is commendable. IF you get funny looks or remarks from nurses or others, just let them know that this is what YOU are comfortable with. It may be hard work- but it’s worth a try!
I hate how our society is hell bent on questioning the decisions of women and mothers. We should all be supporting each other, not questioning each others behaviors/motives. Personally, I think it’s great that you want to try getting your LO breat milk, but am certain that if it doesn’t work that you’ll still be a great mom with a wonderful and healthy child.
Post # 11
@zippylef: I never said anything is wrong with formula. I even suggest she could supplement with this until her milk comes in. But YES breast milk is better than formula. That doesn’t mean formula fed babies are going to have problems growing up. I was formula fed and I turned out just fine but formula will never measure up to mother nature. Sorry if you took offense to that but that is the truth. Nothing to feel shamed about. There are situations in which formula is the right choice for a mother/baby and there is nothing wrong with that. I commend the poster for trying to give her baby breast milk first though.
Post # 12
@anywhos09: I don’t know what your reasons are and I wouldn’t want to make any inappropriate assumptions, but can I encourage you to at least try to have your baby at your breast, especially for the first couple of weeks?
I nursed for 13 months, pumped for 8, and seriously – pumping is hard! I thought it was really unpleasant and inconvenient, and the convenience and “on-demand” advantages to breastfeeding were really pretty awesome. Plus, the baby’s instinct is to latch on pretty much right away you might not be able to pump enough colostrum until your milk comes in to feed your baby – that’s the only reason I can think of that a nurse would discourage you.
Post # 13
This is what I first considered (I’m due in Jan) because I did and still kind of do feel like Boyfriend or Best Friend is/will be awkward. I know its super natural, but I still feel awkward. I’m still up in the air as to what to do but I just wanted to pop in and say I understand where you are coming from and GOOD LUCK!
Post # 14
@anywhos09: My cousin’s baby wouldn’t latch. So she tried to pump and feed. What she found was that she spent 30-40 minutes pumping. Then another 30-40 minutes feeding the baby. The by the time she got the baby fed, changed and down for a nap it was time to start pumping again. So she felt like it added more time to the feeding process and more to cleaning up the pump and bottles. She did this for about 3 weeks and gave in to formula.
Post # 15
I tried to pump but it ended up being so much easier to just whip out the boob (I’m lazy) and now my daughter won’t even get near a rubber nipple. So if you’re going to do it, start early that’s my advice! Get a strong double pump too.
Oh, and I have had good luck in the past with Dr. Brown’s and Born Free bottles. I’ll probably be using them again when we switch over to formula eventually.
Post # 16
I honestly wanted to do the same thing when I was pregnant.
NOT to discourage you, but you really don’t know how hard it’ll be. 🙂 Trust me, the last thing I would have wanted to do after getting up in the middle of the night to feed the baby is to pump for 15-30 min, put it away, and start all over again a few hours later. Not to mention having to warm up milk for a crying baby, being exhausted, etc. That idea quickly jumped into the “haha what was I thinking” category.
JMO, but I’d consider straight up Boyfriend or Best Friend or formula first.