Excuses men use to delay marriage

posted 5 months ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Bumble bee

allenb :  as of yet, no. guess I’ll see what happens between now and next summer 🤷🏽‍♀️

Post # 5
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Honey bee

allenb :  Ha! Number 3! It’s so overused both in real life and movies. No it’s not just a freakin piece of paper! It now legally binds you and gives you a new level of responsibility and rights to each other. It’s an IMPORTANT piece of paper you POS (not you OP)!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

allenb :  I just got a new job and wanna settle in. I’ve been with him for 3 years long distance as he lives in own condo. Asked him if before Halloween, he said yes. So between now and then he’s going to surprise me with a proposal. 🤞💍

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

allenb :  I’ve heard “it’ll happen soon but I don’t want to talk about timelines. Just trust me. Don’t you trust me?” No, that’s why he’s my ex. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I think every lame excuse really means marriage is off the table because these men know that if they were honest they’d lose their girlfriends. They don’t want marriage but they don’t want to be single so they put off marriage as long as possible. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

bewitched :  I saw another bee say that the reason men delay marriage in LTRs is because they’re waiting for someone better to come along. That really stung…but I agree with what you’re saying. They know that if they’re up front, they won’t be able to remain “comfortable” (read: get  guaranteed sex on the regular, emotional support, etc) with the current girl. Therefore, they keep making insinuations that marriage will happen *eventually*, but it’s really just a stalling tactic to keep you as a placeholder :/

 

i think that’s why FIRM walk dates are a must once a man indicates that he’s feeling “pressured” or “what’s the rush?”. I know I certainly have mine!! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I was going to surprise you this weekend but you ruined it. Now you’ll have to wait.

My parents got divorced.

We should buy a house first.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Him: “Of course I want to marry you, it will eventually happen, but I don’t want to talk about it all the time.  I’ll go to my uncle (who’s a jeweler) when it’s time, and we’ll figure it out.” 

Me:  “What if I found a diamond I love that’s exactly what I’ve been looking for and wanted to buy it so you could set it in a ring?” 

Him:  “Absolutely not, I want to do the whole thing from start to finish and in my timing.”  

GUESS WHAT?! Oh fine, you already know.  Another 6 months went by without a proposal OR meaningful steps toward acquiring a ring, and I told him to man up or get out.  He left.  Oh well, it was for the best!  

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