- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
First off, I’m sorry to post this here, I know it’s not really related to the goals of this site, but I am making myself sick with worry and I have no one to talk to.
My husband and I have decided to get a divorce. I told him that I would be the one to file the paperwork and he agreed to let it be uncontested. My lawyer has been giving me the run around (that’s a whole other story!) and it has taken over a month (and still counting) to put together a property settlement agreement. Apparently that pissed off my STBX because a week ago he sent me an email making some wild and ridiculous threats. I immediately referred STBX to my lawyer and my lawyer requested his lawyer’s contact info (ethically required unless STBX is representing himself). Despite this being a simple request, STBX hasn’t responded and I haven’t heard anything from him since. This is making both me and my lawyer nervous because we have no idea what he’s planning.
STBX is mentally unstable and I am very worried that he’s going to escalate things into an ugly contested divorce. We don’t have any kids or property, so there’s no logical reason why he should do that, but I’m worried that he won’t see it that way. I’m also worried that we won’t be able to even work on negotiating the settlement because he won’t tell me lawyer if he’s representing himself or not. I really don’t have the time or money or energy for a drawn out court battle, so I’m scared to death that he might be force me to do things the hard way.
I’m hoping that things will calm down once my lawyer gets the settlement agreement together (hopefully later this week). But until then, I just can’t stop worrying. I know it may not be justified, but I’m also angry at my lawyer for making this take so long. Based on earlier conversations with STBX, I’m pretty sure he would have signed the settlement very easily a few weeks ago.
Thanks for reading 🙂 Any advice on trying NOT to drive myself crazy worrying over this would be very much appreciated