(Closed) exes at a wedding rant…am I the bitch?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Wow that is something else! Tell them to take a running jump if you have been together for four years then they should all get over it. I find it weird she even wants to come what does she think it will be like sitting there watching you marry him. Very weird!

Post # 47
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Jax2015:  It’s shocking to me that your fiance’s cousin would think this appropriate. Some people are so hopelessly clueless.

NO way should this woman be allowed to attend.

Post # 48
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2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Your fiance should tell his cousin if he cannot bring his wife, he doesn’t bring anyone. And your fiance should tell his aunt that same thing. and that the ex wished your daughter dead. Your fiance is the root of it all, she is his ex.

Post # 49
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7892 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Jax2015:  you absolutely can dictate who the cousin brings to the wedding. I’m assuming you invited him and wife wife, not him with a plus one. Guests aren’t allowed to substitute invitations. Stick to your guns on this one!

Post # 50
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223 posts
Helper bee

Errm,  are YOU unreasonable? No. I’m surprised you haven’t uninvited the cousin and aunt for attempting to force invite this ex = ruin your wedding day. Yikes.

Post # 51
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1123 posts
Bumble bee

Based on what she has said and done you have every right to reject her from your wedding. I would be terrified to have her there in case she pulled some kind of stunt and I would resent paying for a meal for someone who wished my child dead before they we’re born…disgusting behaviour!

If anyone can ‘dictate’ who is at a wedding surely it is the bride and groom…since it is their day after all. So please don’t feel bad.

Post # 52
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1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Jax2015:  You are not a bitch! Usually I am all in favor of friendships with exes on both sides if you have read the comments I make to other Bees. Ordinarily I feel either the woman or her Fiance should not cut off people. BUT in this case, this woman ex has broken the law with hateful harassing emails (and likely) tire slashing if she did it. She is a stalker/criminal so I would not allow her at my wedding.

Post # 53
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3611 posts
Sugar bee

Jax2015:  There is no way I’d let this psycho b!tch within 50 miles of my wedding if I were you. If the cousin is enough of a jerk to want to bring her, good riddance to him too. Hire security just in case Ms. Crazy shows up uninvited.

Post # 54
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t even invite Her.  She sounds psychotic.  I’d be afraid of any “crazy” she might pull at the wedding. 

Post # 55
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1308 posts
Bumble bee

Are you freaking kidding me, no WAY would she be invited and the cousin is borderline nuts for even suggesting it (unless he was joking?).  Not only did she commit a crime against you, but she sounds unstable.  

If she showed up, I would have her and the cousin BOTH escorted out.  Nuts.

Post # 56
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Jax2015:  I would go as far to make sure security knows about her and will not let her in. It sounds like she will know where the venue is seeing as she still has contact with the family, and may try to crash it anyway

Post # 57
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You are not crazy at all! This woman should not be allowed anywhere near you never mind a guest at your wedding! FI’s cousin and aunt are ridiculous for putting up a fight over this. Why would someone who has threatened you attend your wedding? If they have a problem with this they can stay home. Wedding guests are supposed to be the people who love and support you and your FI!!

Post # 58
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1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Jax2015:  Sounds like his aunt and cousin are almost as crazy as she is. “Oh, she was doing illegal crap and called an innocent baby spawn of Satan – she was just streeesssed!” Like wow, really? If she had killed someone, could that be written off as stress too? WTF.

The fact that he would even ask is insane, and the fact that they would defend a person who slashes tires and tries to get you fired and blatantly wishes you’d miscarry shows that they are, plain and simple, bad people. No, she shouldn’t be allowed to the wedding and no, that’s not bitchy, that ensuring your own personal safety, because clearly this woman is unhinged.

 

 

Post # 59
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239 posts
Helper bee

Jax2015:  I would say no even if she wasn’t Crazy. Exes don’t belong at your wedding Imo. 

Post # 60
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

THIS IS INSANE! I’d uninvite aunty and the cousin!! Stand your ground on this.. this is your day and you don’t need a crazy b**** there.

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