(Closed) exes at a wedding rant…am I the bitch?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
770 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

First of all, I think it’s highly inappropriate that your cousin-in-law is even suggesting bringing another woman in place of his wife to your wedding. The invitation was addressed to him and his wife. Although his wife cannot attend, that does not, under any circumstance, mean that he gets to just bring some tag-along to make up for his wife’s absence. That is very RUDE and poor politesse. It’s also incredibly inconsiderate to you and your fiance.

The fact that your cousin-in-law is even suggesting bringing this AWFUL woman who has absolutely no place around you, your family, your daughter, etc. is just sickening. And now he got his mom involved? SERIOUSLY? There is just SO much wrong with this situation, I can’t even.

Bar them all from the wedding. They have absolutely no respect for you or your fiance and this is ridiculous that you’re even having to go through this with them. If your future cousin IL is actually insisting on bringing this cow to your wedding, then I would disinvite him AND his bitch mother.

Post # 62
172 posts
Blushing bee

She sounds crazy and his family sounds disrespectful. Who the fck would even think to do that?! Thats ridiculous. You are totally in the right.

Post # 63
1183 posts
Bumble bee

I was going to say ‘exes aren’t always bad’ as I’m in favour of remaining friends with exes – not besties but able to enjoy a drink etc. But this woman is a whole pile of crazy. 

No. No. No. Never. 

She has no right to be there and I’d be uninviting cousin and aunt too. (Even if she wasn’t crazy) Wanting to bring an ex that you haven’t already invited tells me that they can’t fully support your relationship and I wouldn’t want anyone there who isn’t 100% supportive. your FI’s cousin sounds like they’re trying to cause some major trouble here – do not trust them. 

Post # 64
38 posts

This is ridiculous that the cousin would even ASK and then get upset when you said no, especially knowing what went down with this woman! And the cousin-in-law’s mother is out of touch, clearly, since this ex has not only crossed a line, but has damaged your property and caused undue stress during your pregnancy. If it were me, the cousin would be uninvited if he kept pushing to bring her. It seems like a tactic to disrupt your big day. You deserve to have a day with people you love and genuinely support you and your future husband – clearly this person is none of those things! Not only would I put my foot down on this matter I’d see if there was a way to keep her off the premises! If she’s into destroying your property and trying to interfere in your relationship, there’s no telling what she would do at your wedding.

Post # 65
9387 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Jax2015:  No idea waht’s wrong with the cousin, but that woman sounds like she’s 99% likely to take a shit on your cake and scream during your ceremony.

Post # 66
824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

No, someone like that should not be at your wedding, but I’m wondering if your fiance actually made it seem like it was your decision, not his.  Because now his aunts are calling you all sorts of names? 

Post # 67
11002 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re definitely not overreacting.  This is your day, you shouldn’t have to tolerate that kind of crazymaking.

I don’t get this whole ex at wedding business if one party is uncomfortable with it.  It’s simply unecessary.  

I would uninvite him & be done with it.  You may want to look into the cost of hiring a security guard for the day.  I don’t think it’s outrageous & it may be well worth it to preserve your peace of mind.

Post # 68
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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russianbride15:  agreed

Post # 69
1650 posts
Bumble bee

Oh Hellz no, she wont go.  Stand your ground woman.   And so what if the cousin dont come, who cares, hes a buttcrack for even thinking of bringing her.  Its just wrong. 

Post # 70
260 posts
Helper bee

First of all F*ck his aunt and F*ck her, there is not way in HELLLLLLL that crazy ass is coming to my wedding. NO, NO, AND HELL NO! And anyone who doesnt like it can shove it, its not their wedding or their life , theyll be ok

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