Post # 1
I’m wondering if anyone has struggled with trouble sleeping in the days and weeks leading up to the wedding and whether you had a good way of dealing with it.
For the last two nights I’ve had trouble falling asleep (due to the constant checklist in my head) and staying asleep (due to disruptive dreams or light sleeping). I’m starting to feel like a walking zombie during the day… and my work schedule won’t allow for this.
My sleep hygiene isn’t the best and that’s one thing I can improve, but I don’t think it’s going to help with the intrusive thoughts.
Anyone want to commiserate or share what worked for you?
Post # 3
I’ve had this on and off already–the wedding dreams, the restlessness…but the racing mind when you’re trying to fall asleep is the worst! The only thing that has really helped me is to try not to do or think about any wedding stuff at all for at least a couple hours before bed. Have a glass of wine, watch some bad TV–anything to keep your mind from wandering back to your checklist. Or sometimes if your checklist won’t go away, take a minute and write down everything you’re thinking about so that it’s out on paper, safe from being forgotten, and maybe your mind will feel like it can let it go since it doesn’t have to remember anymore (if that makes sense).
A little yoga and/or meditation to clear the mind sometimes helps too…and if all else fails I get out of bed and read or do something non-wedding related until I get really sleepy. For some reason insomnia seems worse when you’re just lying in bed staring at the ceiling. Good Luck!!
Post # 4
I’m there with you doctorgirl! I’ve kind of been having the opposite, waking up early with lists running through my head of way too many things to get done that day. Yesterday I woke up at 5 a.m. Well, I woke up before that and tried to get back to sleep but I gave up at 5 a.m.a nd decided to finish the seating chart.
I have no advice, but I wish you luck and your date is coming up quick! That means all the fretting will be over soon!
Post # 5
I can’t sleep! The wedding is too close to sleep, but staying up gives me a headache because I did so much running around today.
Post # 6
Exactly July… I slept pretty well last night, but woke up with a migrane! I think more exercise this week is key!
I appreciate the suggestions! Each night as we get into bed, we sit down and make a list on I phone for the following day. It’s a struggle between continuing to add new things as I think of them or trying to remember enough at once and putting the list away for the night 🙂
I’m trying to relish every minute of the time beforehand and remember these crazy hectic moments!
Post # 7
Excercise works for me. About 3 hours before bed I go on a nice long run. Then I take a nice long hot bath. By the time I have cooled off from the bath I am ready for bed. The long hot bath is key though since it warms up your body, relaxes you and then allows it to cool down.
Post # 8
My sister had this problem and I remember she took tylenol PM (bad habit, but it worked for her).
I would say more exercise and perhaps a glass of red wine an hour or so before bed to relax?
Post # 9
Doctorgirl, we’re date twins, so I definitely can commiserate on the insomnia front! This may sound a bit bizarre, but I have found that turning on a stationary fan really allows me to fall asleep efficiently. When I get into bed, I try to concentrate on the white noise from the fan so that my brain can relax. I have found that the gentle noise really soothes my running thoughts and enables me to sleep soundly. It’s a trick I utilized in undergrad, and I forgot how well it works for me until a couple weeks ago. The rest has been wonderful!
Post # 10
I’ve had bad insomnia off and on since writing my dissertation almost two years ago. This also coincided with developing a back and neck injury that still isn’t fixed…so part of it is just pain related. But recently, with the wedding plus leaving my job stress, the insomnia has kicked in again. I’m alwaays thinking of everything I have to do the next day
The strategy that has worked best for me is to fall asleep in front of re-runs of a TV show that can entertain me if I can’t sleep, but is not so engrossing I’ll keep myself awake. (for me, I admit, it’s the West Wing). Another thing that sometimes works is to get up and try to do one of the things I’m stressed out about. Usually getting up triggers my body into realzing how tired I am and I end up falling asleep.
I do think that putting together the list of things to do right before going to sleep is probably contributing to your insomnia. Do something relaxing that requires little mental energy before you sleep…you want to slip off to bed, not remind yourself of all the things you are forgetting.
Post # 11
I definitely had this problem leading up to the wedding. I would lie in bed trying to go to sleep and I found myself distracted by all the things I had to do. My husband tried to help me by trying to talk through all the things I had to do, but that would keep me up more. I think making a to-do list right before bed would stress me out more.
I tried to take a shower/bath right before bed, which seemed to relax me. It may be bad, but a glass of wine seemed to help, too. If I couldn’t sleep, I would read, but not watch TV. I find that TV keeps me more awake for whatever reason. I made a "no wedding talk after 10 PM" rule, which I tried to keep. I finished all wedding related business before that time, so that I could try to keep it off my mind before bed. It didn’t always keep me from thinking about the wedding details, but at least I wasn’t talking about it with my husband, sis, mom, etc.
Post # 12
I know this is going to make me sound like a pill-popper, but I’ve always used Melation when jetlagged, and it really came in handy in the last month leading up til the wedding. I only took 1/2 doses, but it took the "edge" off and helped clear the endless todo list!