- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
I am new to the site, but have been stalking it for a while since becoming engaged 2 weeks ago :).
OK, so I want to hear from ANY one who is an expat, from a different country planning a Destination Wedding and the pros and cons. The reason we have chosen Sri Lanka, is it’s only 4 hours from Dubai for us and our close friends in Dubai, one of whom is my Maid/Matron of Honor and the other a Bridesmaid, the best man also lives here in Dubai.
The second reason is Sri Lanka is dear to my heart, as my mother is from Sri Lanka and I fell in love with the place when I visited on a few occasions as did my fiancée. Thirdly, we can get fab wedding packages for up to 100 guests at a 1/4 of the price it would be in the UK or Dubai. Dubai, just does not have the romance we want, it’s very OVER THE TOP and we live here, Indian and Arabic weddings are the big things here and they don’t quite cater to our western/bohemian tastes :s and UK is off my Fiancés radar, even though we are both British, he is allergic to the place, I am more open, but we both have to be happy in the end :S.
Of course, main issue is some loved ones potentially not being able to make it, choosing WHO to invite since we have big and close families and choosing an appropriate date based on THE WEATHER and flight costs. The most immediate of loved ones (parents, best friends, siblings) have said YES straight off the bat when we casually made our preference known. Some with young families and commitments more understandably expressed concern.
I am generous by nature, even though sometimes I can’t afford to be, so will be offering up to 15 close guests their accommodation and breakfast for free for 3 days. Secondly we are covering costs of bus transfers to venue from hotels. We may also pay for a big villa for up to 16 people for 3 days. – The only reason we can do this is because of the fact that pushed our wedding back to 2 years, so we can do this and so some family have enough time to save their airfare. – I honestly don’t resent doing it if I can, as I love being able to treat the I love and IDEALLY would love the wedding of our dreams with the people WE love – AND it will be a huge thank you to those making the effort and spending the money.
Another bonus is, I want to give people time to plan and save, as several close family members (on my mums side) have always expressed their dream of returning to Sri Lanka, also my close cousin, her mother died when she was four, she was buried in Sri Lanka and she never had the chance to visit her mother’s grave, she has always wanted to do this and this may just be the incentive she needs to fulfil her dream, I would be so happy if ppl see this as something extra special for them all., my wedding, a holiday and a spiritual/birth country reunion.
I ideally I would like 50 – 75 guests, we have an actual guest list of 110. I am not keen on a tiny wedding with 15 ppl, we are too close to our family and friends for that and I want some atmosphere, so I am hoping with our gifts of accommodation an 2 years saving notice, we may get the turn out we would be happy with.
I am reading some Destination Wedding horror stories on here however, and its making me nervous. Anyone out there in a similar situation to me or any ‘POSITIVE./TURNED OUT well in the end’ stories?