Wow — There are many things I could say, but let’s just cut to the chase.
Both mine and FH’s parents had originally offered to do 50/50 split, WITH EVERYTHING. However, 2 weeks after we got engaged my dad lost his job after being with the company for 15 years. It was DEVESATING to my whole family, and mostly on my dad. At that point, FH and I knocked down our 300+ guest list, to 100 of our most important family and friends in our lives. We went down from our $95+ plated dinners and open bars, to $23.99 pp (not including taxes) and went with a cash bar and buying a couple of kegs. I have found some amazing deals that have saved me a couple of hundred dollars on each thing, in the weddingbee classified section. We did DIY invitations, and plan on TRYING our hand at our flowers. We moved our venue from a more “fancy and sophisticated” location to something in a less expensive part of town, but still in a beautiful hotel, where the wedding and reception will be together. My parents gave us $1200.00, that covered my wedding dress, undergarments, garder and veil ( — ALL ON SALE). His parents will be giving us $1000.00 and paying for the food for our rehearsal dinner, which is a BBQ/cook-out at my parents, and I couldn’t be anymore happier with it.
We were frantic about a honeymoon, I had this whole 10 day all inclusive trip to the Dominican Republic planned, but we definitely can’t afford that now, nor would I ever ask either of our parents to front the money for that. We have down-sized and we’re now going an hour and a half away (DISNEY WORLD) for 4 or 5 days. Which, by the way, I’m totally STOKED about — I love Harry Potter! We’re getting a great deal, because my dad has hotel points from his previous job when he travelled a lot. SO, we’ll be staying for free or for next to nothing and I have a friend who works at Universal, so we’re shooting for some free tickets! We have a great group of friends and family, that even if they can’t contribute financially, they are contributing by helping us with our DIY projects and offering their services the day of, and just asking if there is anything we need help with. You’d be suprised the hidden talents some of your friends/family have. For example, my co-worker graduated with a Graphic Design degree, and did our invitations — THEY LOOK AMAZING — and we had them printed at a local company and then bought our pocketfold and envelopes, and spent a total of $250.00 (stamps not included), which saved us about $350.00 total from what I was looking at!
You have plenty of time to be saving up where you can. Go through your closets and utilize ebay, craigslist, etsy, and even the weddingbee classifieds to sell some things you don’t use anymore. I’m sure you’ll still be able to have an amazing wedding, at less than HALF THE COST, if you really just try and talk to people who can help.
I know it’s long and all over the place, sorry.
Oh, and P.S. — If you didn’t want people to comment on the situation itself, you could have left out all the details and only said the basics “We need to plan a wedding on a budget of $____.__, please help”