Post # 1
So.. I’m new here.. and I’m in the process of making a priority list for our ceremony. We got engaged in March, and thought we were going to get married next year, but we’re in the process of buying a house and I really wanted to get married in Ocean City, MD, and after looking at the cost of the ceremony and deciding we wanted a small laid-back wedding, we decided to go for it and do it this october at sunrise and have a weekend of celebrating with family/friends. We are planning on arriving Friday AM, getting married Saturday at sunrise, doing breakfast with everyone at a local breakfast place, then spending the rest of the weekend just relaxing and having fun and coming back home on Monday. I made a prelim list of all the folks we’d like to invite which is a decent mix of family and then maybe 2-3 friends (and SO’s) each.. it came out to maybe 50-60 people. My idea for the weekend is based around OC being one of my favorite childhood memories and vacation spot still to this day, we go every summer, and I just want to marry my guy and enjoy the weekend and introduce people I love to what I love about OC, if that makes sense? I’m not blocking rooms at a hotel, because I’ve found that condos for mini-weeks at this time of year are MUCH cheaper and if they’re through the right company you have a much better shot of a homerun on cleanliness and amenities. Since I’m not blocking rooms it’s hard to give folks information on rentals, but I did think about maybe doing some type of website with recommended links to places you can find condos and adding in a hotel if anyone is still wanting to go that route. I also wanted to do “leave-behind” backs, just a fun little gift back to welcome people to OC and throw in some inexpensive fun little things since they’re spending the weekend with us… but with everyone being spread out, that’s gonna be impossible. I’m kind of stressing out, most people are asking about where we’re blocking rooms, where the ceremony is, etc, and we just don’t have any answers yet! I tried to be courteous with everyone and give them a heads up of the dates since we haven’t sent our official invites out yet so that people could request off those dates with their employers… but I’m kind of stressing. I don’t want the weekend to be a financial burden on anyone, I want this weekend to just be about relaxing and having fun and celebrating two crazies getting married.. and I’m afraid after the ceremony and breakfast people arent going to feel included in anything, but there’s plenty to do — AHH! Any suggestions on how to get the weekend to flow a little better? Or am I overreacting since it’s all close family and friends and they probably don’t care either way? LOL
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Set up a wedding website and add the details on condos and local hotels. Then email/Facebook the website to friends and family you know you’re inviting. Update the website as necessary when there is more information.
On a side note, put together a loose schedule of events/get-togethers for Saturday afternoon and Sunday. For example, “Join us on Saturday at X Beach from 2pm-5pm for some fun in the sun and sandcastle building. Make sure to bring towels and sunblock!” Or “From 9am until 12 noon on Sunday you can find us at X Beach soaking up the rays and splashing in the surf.” That way people have a common destination if they want to hang out together but it’s during non-meal times so people won’t expect to be fed.
Post # 4
First, I think you need to get things like the ceremony booked asap, so that you can tell guests what the plan is, and they can then start looking at booking accommodation. As a guest, my first priority with a Destination Wedding would be knowing far enough in advance when and where it was so I could book time off, book travel, book a hotel/apartment, etc.
Then, I think you should put as much information as possible on your website. We aren’t having a Destination Wedding, with most guests travelling 40 minutes max; however, most will want to stay the night of the wedding. We are obviously providing details of our venue, which is a hotel with 23 rooms (most of which will be booked by close family, the bridal party, etc). However, we are also including details of a further 3 hotels near by, including a guide to prices, and the best/cheapest place to book them, and then a link to a more general website which has numerous B&Bs in the area listed. We want to make things as easy as possible for people, so, I think having this information on your website would be really useful; eg the types of accommodations available, a ball-park idea of the prices, and tips on who to book through.
As far as the weekend itself goes, I agree that giving some kind of welcome gift will be tricky as people will be staying in lots of different places. So, I wouldn’t worry about that. In terms of activities, I think that if we were hosting a Destination Wedding we would provide our guests with information as to what’s on in the area, and we would also try to organise some informal events over the whole weekend, that people could come to if they chose eg drinks at a bar, or whatever. As a guest, I would appreciate that; I think if I made the effort to attend a Destination Wedding, only to find the couple basically left everyone to their own devices straight after the wedding breakfast, I’d be a little peeved. But, that’s just me.
Post # 5
@beachbride1216: This is what I was trying to suggest in my last paragraph lol, only, didn’t explain well at all; yeah, try to give people an idea of where you’ll be/what you’re doing so that they can all meet up if they choose, but will know that it isn’t a proper event ie with food and drinks provided for by you.
Post # 6
@barbie86: All of our guests are about 3-4 hrs within the distance of OC, some are less, some maybe an hour more, so it’s not like anyone is flying in, which made me feel a little bit better. We did book our ceremony, but Etsy is taking forever in getting our invites back to us, so as a courtesy I sent out a mass text to those that I knew would need prior notice so that they could ask for those dates off of work, and I also threw out that I had found some very affordable rentals for that weekend with a ballpark estimate and that I’d be happy to send everyone out an email that needed some help in booking something, for 4 days I’ve locked the rentals down to about $300-$400 and these are 3-4 bedroom condos, so for those with kids, I think this is way cheaper. I also let them know the general vicinity we will be staying so that they can book close to us. I also did a list of “our favorite things to do in OC”, because realistically those with kids are probably not going to want to miss out on the chance to do some fun family things that weekend, so I wanted them to have options. I’m trying to make this as fluid as possible, and everyone thought it sounded like a great idea, I’m just trying to knock out any other courtesy things that guests might expect. I’m keeping in mind that though our parents and such arent worried about the $ aspect, some of our friends with kids are so I’m trying to keep that in mind. Thanks for the feedback though.