(Closed) Expectations of others

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I guess my first comment would be…and no rudeness intended…in 2010..there ARE no generally accepted roles. I think these days, it’s actually more common that the couple pay for their own wedding rather than expect their parents to. Just like you and your Fiance seem to be making good money from the outside looking in, the same thing may apply to both sets of parents. If you really want them to help out financially…ask them. Don’t expect them to just hand over funds that they may or may not have.

IMO the best course of action would be for you and your Fiance plan the kind of wedding that you two can afford on your OWN and if the parents are able to contribute anything, that will be extra.


Post # 4
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

so true what Jamaica Bride said.

My FH and I worked out our wedding date due to how much money we could save and it not be stressful. Our budget worked out to be a 13 month engagement. My FHs family isnt contributing one single thing, Im not even sure that they will be at the wedding is how much communication we have had. My parents.. are really pleased that we are budget concious..My parents are not in a position to pay for the wedding.. however they have offered to pay for our venue hire.. which we are really pleased they even offered. However my mum still tries to sneak another guest in, In my dream world I wish a wedding didnt have a money factor. My mothers initial guest list was 310 people.. it has since been explained that 150 people is plenty enough and even then FH and I were only hoping for 80!

My dissapointment is with a Bridesmaid or Best Man..expects me to be at her every event.. but however too lazy to show up to a dress alteration? according to her, she met a new boy.

With the expectation, have your clear rules… talk and communicate.. if it gets worse at least its out there on the table and you will have your FHs support. as with the maid of honor.. I suggest she employ airbags..as she may just hopefully get a kick up the rear??



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